Bowel cancer CARERS, FAMILY & FRIENDS chat

Helen soo sorry you are having to go through the stress with Paul's illness life can be so unfair this time of year is bad enough when you loose someone but to have to go through as a family this extra stress must be a nightmare sending hugs to you x

Jkee and Helen. What a blinking year.  I do agree as I can’t remember the last time I felt so happy.  This year has been crap.  There is no way I could cope with anyone staying unless they helped as head in the shed but would go into the garage if that happened. Please be careful if anyone has a cold etc as they are so vulnerable.  He is home but I feel worse for some reason  

helen I feel so sad for you having to go through all the deliveries etc . I really don’t know how you cope .  That is sad you didn’t go but understand why.  It will bring back all the memories.  I do feel I could do with support at home just someone here just in case. 

I am going to have to put my big pants on and get my head around what is going on.

please take care all xx

Morning everyone, just up and ready waiting for nurses to come.

Hope everyone can have the best Xmas they can manage.

Seaons greetings 

Helen x

Hi Helen. Hope all goes well with nurses. I am not bearing up at all as have no energy. Les has the runs which could be caused by antibiotics. Loads to do but not worrying about it. I really hope all goes well with Paul and wish you all the best for being such a huge trooper. I really don’t know how you manage xx

Just have to take one day at a time- he has had a bad night so he is in bed. Just one thing after another. Hope you have plenty toilet rolls for Les - sorry just feeling a bit hysterical!! Try not to worry too much although I know easier said than done.

Helen x

Hi Helen. He always bought in bulk therefore you can imagine how many toilet rolls we have.  When in lockdown we had hundreds and gave quite a lot away. I think if we don’t giggle about things it would be a lot worse.  Do you have company Helen to get you through this xx

Hiya supposed to be visiting Kevin’s mam and dad today with Paul as they haven’t seen him for ages. Will see if he is up to it. Going to Sallys for Xmas breakfast and dinner and stopping at mine tomorrow night as Paul’s kids are coming to stay with him, which will cheer him up. I can’t wait for a quiet night on my own in my own bed just to try and relax. I have to start taking blood pressure tests for seven days so will start that next week.

Helen x

Try and relax and sort of enjoy yourself. Just take care.  Your blood pressure will be high due to all the stress etc this year. You are and have done a marvellous job xx

Hi everyone just to say before the family drop  on me I am thinking about you all no one understand what we have and are going through apart from the macmillan family on here but I have tried to get dressed showered and acting face is on stomach in knots the nerves made me sick but lots of water I will get through keep telling my self would have been easier just to look after Simon no puppy to try and stop opening the presents just hope he sleeps I will be going to be early with Simon leave them to entertain themselves Helen I hope you get that chance to relax and Les has a comfortable few days.Merry Christmas xx

Jkee you must try and relax. I am sat watching a sci fi film which I totally can’t stand but if it makes Les happy then so be it. Just checking out the sale items for next year as everything done and ready. I even finished the ironing this afternoon after cleaning etc. for one day I suppose it makes sense for people to gather. I will just have to make sure Les does not over do it tomorrow. I wish I could feel happier but as we all know this year has been terrible to say the least with so many ups and downs.  Just take it easy and ask for help if you need it Jkee otherwise you will be exhausted. 

try and relax all, should take notice of what I text.  Xx