Bowel cancer CARERS, FAMILY & FRIENDS chat

Helen I am so so sorry for your loss how the heck can anyone deal with such a loss thankful you have Sally. We were just saying if we win the lottery we would get a private surgeon to operate tomorrow love to you and your family xx

Thankyou SCARLET10 was not the news we expected they are going to look in his tummy and try to remove but it is on the tissue of tummy and fatty tissue small bowel they could open and the Cancer has spread everywhere we don't have any options as it would be months without x

Nancy I am really pleased to read good news I pray you carry on going the right direction hugs to you xx

So pleased for you Nancy!

Onwards and Upwards as they say. Take Care. 

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Oh Jkee!

I am so sorry to hear that. I have no words of comfort for you but can imagine how you are feeling. Maybe there is still some hope and something may be able to get done. Oh dear! God Bless you my luv. Thinking of you and sending extra large hugs. Take Care

Vicky xx

Oh that's great Maggie that you have Les home. Sound a lot like Jay was with me when he first came home from hospital remember it well  yes they definitely like their presence to be felt. I am so upset for you all especially for Helen and Jkee. Just reading these posts take me back to this time last year when when I didn't have an inkling in 7 or 8 weeks time Jay would be gone. Just kept convincing myself he would get better but of course I was in denial. I have no words of comfort to give any of you at this time but just to let you all know that you are all in my thoughts. Please take special care of yourselves and Bless you all. Sending Hugs. 

Vicky xx

Jkee I am pleased you have your son there as it helps with support. My eldest daughter flies back at the of the week and I hope Les is more settled. She is actually working while here in England as she can do it by emails etc so I am laid on the bed trying to get my energy back. She will wake me when she comes to bed and then I will sleep on the recliner xxxx 

You are the person closest to him and who he feels comfortable around so that unfortunately means you bear the brunt of his anger and frustration. That doesn’t make it ok but it’s absolutely not your fault or anything you’ve done wrong. I hope you give yourself credit for how string and amazing you have been. Caring is such a hard and often thankless thing but he couldn’t manage without you xxx

Thank you Scarlett. I must admit I don’t feel strong and feel like crying as like you all seeing them like this is horrendous. I will keep letting him grumble at me and take it as I know he does not mean to as it is the pain and frustration with the fissure which is really really bad xx

I've just been catching up with the messages on here. I'm so sorry to hear about all the bad news. It breaks my heart to read what you're all going through. Cancer is such a cruel disease. I hope your loved ones will have many more months/years, I know what it feels like when you feel like the time is ticking and the future is uncertain.

I'm still grieving the loss of my dad. From my experience, I wished I hadn't nagged my dad to eat and drink during the last month of his life. In a way, I felt like if he eats and drinks, he'll get more energy and would get a bit better. I should have just followed his lead, if he wants to eat/drink, he'll ask for it. If I asked him once and he said no, I shouldn't had asked again. I guess the main thing is to keep them happy, go with the flow, if they're angry, just let them be and don't argue back unless you really need to stand your ground. I think that's my biggest regret. Sorry this sounds negative, my key point is take a step at a time, treasure each moment so that when you look back there'll be minimal "if onlys" and regret. I know it's not easy, it's so difficult and heart breaking.

I wish you all the best. Sending you all a massive hug and strength to get through this. It's all so sad. Look after yourselves. You are in my thoughts x