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Bowel cancer carers, family and friends chat

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Hi all, thank you for accepting me. My husband has been diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer. At present I am not accepting it, it makes me feel sick, panicky, shaky etc. it was a complete shock.  Anybody else in the same situation.  Many thanks

  • Hi Helen. He is a bit shook up with a really bad seatbelt mark along his neck. His glasses ended up on the floor.  Apparently our car was lifted up.  He has just got back and has a bright red mark on his neck, phone calls tomorrow etc.  it was a good old car as well but he is not injured xx

  • Oh my goodness we could all make a soap opera or a book with our  lives hope he is ok xx

  • Its our anniversary on the 21st June Jkee - the longest day and Ironically it was that day last year that we got told his cancer had come back. We went out for a meal just as we planned though don't see it happening this time though. It used to be a regular thing maybe once a month or something. Strange how you miss all those wee things who knows though stranger things have happened and it might happen again. The way he is eating just now though I doubt it and he can still hardly walk but we live in hope for that too and now and again miracles do happen. Had the dog out and bumped into one of my neighbours who asked after Jay amazing how word gets round. Ah well another day gone just have to see what tomorrow brings. Sleep Well everyone Goodnight!

    Vicky xx

  • Puppy update still grieving for my life before him but realise I can't re-home him Simon loves him when he is sleep and Hugo the puppy. naps they lay together I look think aww 5pm flying at me biting evil eye think can't do this I'm hoping the flood of love will come he slept from 10pm no crying in crate down stairs until 6am must be doing something right Simon sat on sofa with puppy asleep in his arms after a hour of eating cushion my 2nd pair of slippers it will get easier it will get easier lol. He just said before resting thankyou for my anniversary present so what can I do just hope to god he dosn't go in hospital and leaves me the the tasmania devil hugs to you all xx

  • He lives that little dog!! Love how you call it a Tasmanian devil!! Once the chewing etc is over I’m sure you’ll love it too!

    Helen x

  • Loves I meant!! Lol

  • Morning ladies! Not having a good day today. Sitting here a bit emotional. So worried that Jay is not eating a lot. Thinking this is a sign he's going downhill. He will eat but only pick at food just now. It's too sunny just wish it would go away normally i would relish this time but not today. Phoned GP reception again on the advice of the district nurses and said I need to phone back at 2 and get a prescription for anti-sickness tablets for him and I have to ask for protein drinks as well these are like supplements when you don't feel like eating. I've seen them online but I've been told not to order them there and ask for them on prescription and I should get them. He's having a nap just now says he feels tired. Don't know if he'll be up for the exercises later on just need to wait n see. Hope you're all ok and having a slightly better day. Jkee so glad you've decided to keep the puppy. The biting/chewing stage will pass and if he's good company for Simon well that's all you need. 

    Vicky xx

  • Vicky the protein drinks are really good Simon had them and I have in past due to tummy issues nice tasting as well . Has he a favourite food I just repeat same food for Simon boring but it's fish in parsley sauce and mash think he had in hospital  only thing he will eat. It's awful when you think the meals we used to eat you will find a way it's really hard I know but you are strong the things you are doing he knows your a amzing partner just doing your best xx

  • Doctor phoned. He's given him a prescription for tablets it's a combined anti-sickness and sleeping tablet and another pain patch for his side he has a pain like a muscular pain shooting up his back and he told the doctor this when he spoke to him on the phone. I was sitting with him and he said to me `now don't start crying` but I think this cancer is beginning now to take a grip. I asked why did he think that and he said he doesn't know he just has `a feeling`. Don't like it when he begins talking like that. Just looking at him today and he looks so frail but yesterday he looked great I suppose he is just going to be like that just now. 

    xx

  • We were given a mixed pack of shakes and juices to see what he liked. Then told he couldn’t have the juices as they would make his blood sugar too high. Kevin had a few of the shakes but returned a load of them to the chemist. Was told get them on prescription as they are very expensive to buy.Has he had anymore scans if if thinks it’s progressing? Lots of ups and downs and have to take the good days when you can. Make sure you look  after yourself. Tomorrow might be a good day - we live in hope.

    Love Helen

    ps I am having a bit of a sort out today, keeping stuff and getting rid of stuff, don’t know if it’s too soon but there is so much to sort and feel I need to make a start on the unimportant stuff