Hi all, thank you for accepting me. My husband has been diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer. At present I am not accepting it, it makes me feel sick, panicky, shaky etc. it was a complete shock. Anybody else in the same situation. Many thanks
Yes there are those who refuse chemo but some are not even offered it and I think that was the case for Jay. If the oncologist said at the time we think you could benefit from post surgery chemo I would have jumped on that anything that was going to stop it coming back but we were never given that option. It's everyones individual choice if they choose to have chemo or any cancer treatment, but I know I would have nagged Jay to have it were it offered. My dad was the opposite he had COPD and metastatic lung cancer and just refused any treatment although us as a family at the time tried to get him to see sense and at least try something but in the end it was his decision and we just had to respect that.
Torry please don’t leave you can always vent your feelings here and you have knowledge as well. You contribute a lot. We are all here for you too. Unfortunately no family members as have only my daughter and son in law and he works 24/7 as he has two businesses and building his own house on top of that. Gosh my right hip is painful today and was last night. I do feel so alone. Just been to check on Les and he does not look well at all. He has taken two laxido as he can’t go this morning. That reminds me I will check the other toilet and clean it. I do count and so do all as a valued friend.
Afternoon Helen sorry the puppy doing my head in every time he falls to sleep I move he wakes tried digging my carpet so decided kitchen only back yard section of garden and the conservartory he is allowed they do say the cockapoo is a velcro dog won't leave Simon like he knows. I was thinking about you a lot yesterday Helen apart from my children and grandchildren I think I will be very alone yes I have sister and few friends but apart from a text now and then they have left me to it x Oh and simon said he will haunt me if i get rid of the dog lol
Helen I feel awful when you have lost Kevin talking about Simon or moaning about the puppy I'm sure you must read some of our post and think we are lucky they are here stop moaning so I am sorry for that. I understand what you are saying I would not even be able to pick up the computer or concentrate you have been amazing what ever you decide you have been a amazing help and we are still here for you any time xx
I have taken before and after pictures. I need someone to help me. I am just sat having a sandwich and the I will start again otherwise I will end up crying. Just made him some cuppa soup. Goodness knows how he will make 9.15 to see the oncologist unless today is a one off which I doubt. Garden rescue would be much appreciated please lol.
swap the puppy for the koi any day. My bloody glasses fell in as well. Managed to get them out and disinfected my glasses and arms. Thankfully it was the filter as the pond is over 6 feet deep. Moan over.
Maggie reading your post I just realized I laughed for the first time in months sorry the glasses mine fell on floor puppy got to them first they are just for reading but can't see phone without them ended up at pound shop for some keep going everyone x
Sorry you feel like that. We are a great support for one another here and your input matters. Why not just take a break for a while but don't leave altogether and then you can come back and let us all know how you are getting on? Take Care.
Just been on the phone to the hospital and they said Jay has just been mostly sleeping all day. I have been trying to reach him on his phone but he wasn't picking up. The nurse said he is just really sleepy. I did eventually get him but he was very incoherrant and I could hardly make out a word he was saying. The nurse said they have pain drivers going into him and he is comfortable. Why do I think now he doesn't have long left. I think they would tell me that though if they thought anything like that was happening. I am at my wits end.
