Bowel cancer carers, family and friends chat

Thanks Maggie your posts always seem to cheer me up a bit. Planted Kevin’s tree lastnight and have it standing on the step where I can see it. Have got visitors coming next Saturday from Nottingham and Yorkshire who are very good friends when we lived in Spain so trying to get garden ship shape for them. Will be lovely to see them but emotional.

everyone seems to be having a tough time at the moment what with puppies and husbands - take a breath and try to enjoy the time you have as you never know what’s coming next 

Thoughts and hugs for everyone - seems like another sunny day here

love Helen x

Morning Helen so pleased you got to go and enjoy I'm sure your mind wondered off sometimes but glad your pushing yourself not sure I could be as strong.....I have found counciling a help just to of load to a stranger. Going to be hot today made up with Simon over shouting at him yesterday bless him felt sorry this morning he was sad he has put this pressure on me but has given him a cause to live the puppy that is take care xx

Pleased you and Simon are not at loggerheads and he at least is enjoying the puppy even though it’s hard work for you.

enjoy the sunshine today - I would just like to have something to look forward to.

Helen x

You are not wrong every day is precious but Les is more interested in making a mess and sorting his mothers place out for auction.  Instead of us spending time he wants son in law and him to go up and have a bonfire as furniture is too old. He does not have the energy to do it so I asked if we got someone in to take it away the solicitors will reimburse us. Then there is the garden, yet again he said no one is touching my garden. I put a duvet in the grass and I got told off. I just said the stare of it who cares.  It does look like Steptoe and sons lol. I coukd really swear. He is so stubborn.  He went the other night to swap cheques to his sister who I cannot stand and got lost as it is burnopfield.  More like he was disoriented.  I sat home and panicked. I have been doing the private work since 6.30 hoping for quality time but he is sat watching the wars, how blinking depressing is that. Oh I coukd go on and on. Morning moan over. It will be emotional when friends arrive but you can also have a laugh at the silly things and moan about the horrid things.  I am p,eased you got the tree planted for Kevin. Torry not being awful we have about 40 in plant pots plus all the bloody other things. His motorbike, bike etc are all outside. I said why not sell them. Again he said they are mine and I am not selling them. No win situation. Sister in law said I don’t know how you cope with the mess inside and out and started laughing. She is aged 80 a lot older than me. I nearly swore at her. Another moan over. Lol. 

hope all is okay with everyone huge hugs Maggie xx. Will be back later xx

Morning Maggie it feels good to have a moan no one but us cares to listen lol we do have to step back and think as Helen as said and enjoy the very small tings in each day yesterday was pants today I'm going to try and be more positive even with the black cloud hanging over us all . It's too hot here in the Nottinghamshire to do anything take care everyone xxxx

I do agree but he has gone to bed as not well at all.  I have all the mess to clear up that he has been buying on impulse. Just not a good day. He even bought 100 plastic ducks. Don’t go there. What I am going to do with those. They are on my dining table with everything else plus any space in the kitchen. I have been busy all morning and will try again later when I have the strength after a cuppa. We need so much doing as this was a renovation.  My friend from Australia will be here on the 20 June so looking forward to that. Moan over yet again. Oh he even bought coke coal glasses as if we have not got any. It is a wonder the ceilings have not fallen through with the loft absolutely full. Stop moaning Maggie lol take care all xx

Afternoon Ladies!

How are we today? I'm not too bad myself anxiety still there obvs but not how I was 2 days ago. Been out and put another washing out my downstairs neighbours came out to talk to me to find out how Jay is doing. This is why just now I am trying to avoid people I know people are just being kind or concerned well most of them but still. I was all I could do to stop myself breaking down. Said if I need anything at all just ask. Our son and our wee granddaughter are up visiting him just now he phone earlier wanting me to put a horse on for the Epsom Derby one of his wee `hobby bets` at a fiver so that's what I did so he must be feeling better. He said that his blood pressure is still rising slightly and dropping as well and his blood sugars were a bit low too but they're giving him sugary drinks to try to lift that a bit and they are just continuing with the Iv fluids and antibiotics. He had a bowl of soup for dinner last night he said and some ice cream and jelly so must be getting his appetite back too. He said they'll possibly change over his catheter and nephostromies once the infection has cleared a good bit. I don't really care I just want them to fix him again so if its only time he has left that he gets home to spend it here. My sister has gone out again for the day so sitting here on my own in the peace and quiet for a little while. Apart from that he sounds good he's got his voice back again I could hardly make out what he was saying to me on Thursday he was more or less talking in a whisper inbetween nodding off constantly. He sounds more like himself today. Take Care All.

Sorry Maggie the 100 plastic ducks just made me laugh HOPEFUULY your friend will help you at least someone to chat to xx

Sounds Jay is responding better in hospital than at home I always feel more relaxed when I know Simon is having 24 hour care even though you want them home.It must have been a awful worry the last week keep going Jay hugs x

Patty k that is good news for you. He is getting looked after 24/7 and that is all you can ask for. I am really pleased he is eating a little and his voice sound more like him.  Rest while you can.  I have done loads this morning. I did feel like crying this morning but that has gone for now. 

Jkee please don’t ask about the ducks. You have no idea what he collects. Airfix models, jigsaws, train sets etc etc. oh and glass baubles for the Christmas tree. We put over a thousand on.  We hava very tall and large Christmas tree. Then there is his koi fish in the garden. You name it he has got it. OMG  what have I got a small box in the loft with my name on just a few keepsakes. 

Dont even ask how many bloody cups we have  etc  moan over for this afternoon . Just wish I could post pictures then you could have a laugh on my behalf  bless him 

Ladies I could do with some sanity and help .  Huge hugs. Maggie xx