Hi all, thank you for accepting me. My husband has been diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer. At present I am not accepting it, it makes me feel sick, panicky, shaky etc. it was a complete shock. Anybody else in the same situation. Many thanks
Kevin can barely talk now, have him his meds at half nine and he has coughed constantly bringin up phlegm and became very distressed. Am sitting on the sofa beside his hospital bed willing him to sleep and rest. Don’t think the antibiotics etc are doing him any good now and will see if we can stop them. He hasn’t eaten anything now for 2 days and don’t think you would keep An animal like this — it’s so distressing for him and us and don’t know how long this could gonn be on for. Anyway night night ladies and hope we get some rest xx Helen
Just happened to notice your post . Definitely have a word with his team about managing the mucus /phlegm. We went through this with my dad as he became weaker and the mucus more problematic to cough . There are things they can do to help dry it up .
It made it a lot easier for him and for us . Our helpline staff would be happy to chat further if you need them .
Sending you love and strength during these difficult days .
My friend who lives on her own always has ready meals from either Morrisons or marks and Spencer’s. How odd not having refresher courses. I would just ring one of the learn to drive companies who may know somebody or even ring the police who do the advanced courses or just do it and drive down the road and back. That is lovely your sister is staying as you have company. How are things everyone. As always all in my thoughts xx
Dear torry I am thinking of you. As Perkins says I have no words but only huge hugs. I am so upset for you. Make sure you get rest and eat to keep your strength up. I am absolutely devastated for you. It all sounds terrible. Big hugs and love. Maggie xx
I slept ok eventually but feels like what we are giving him makes him worse and I feel so bad giving it. Nurse coming at 11 and has said not to give him meds if he is so unsettled and should have rang lastnight for someone to come out. It’s too hard…. Have to go to chemist to try and get more stuff as nowhere seems to have stock. Not like I’ve got anything g else to do is it.
Oh torry the whole situation is horrendous. Now you know you can ring the nurses at any time please do and don’t suffer on your own. I would ring each chemist to see if the have the meds in and if not when would they get them. Keep that chin up you are doing a grand job and don’t forget it. Ask the nurses who sticks the meds as well. Xx
Slept like a log last night for some reason. Went to bed about 11.30 as I felt my eyes closing. My sister went to bed about 11 she likes watching the snooker so as the world championships are going on just now she's right into that That was my dad's favourite as well and think they both watched it together. I usually sit up and try and find a movie on Netflix or Amazon or Youtube but last night for some reason just felt myself nodding off. Just got into bed and the phone rang and you know what your mind's like when you get phone calls at that time of night. It was Jay though wishing me goodnight. He does this usually about 10.30-11 but I just took it he went to sleep last night and forgot. The soul! he was so sorry that he thought he had woken me up and kept the call short. I was rudely awoken this morning at 5 with a door banging. As I said we live in an upper flat but the walls are paper thin and if a door from the downstairs house gets banged shut it actually vibrates up through the floor. They have a teenager and I think she like to acrobatics in her bedroom all you can hear is thumping off the floor as if she is jumping off her bed constantly. The parents gave her the big bedroom which is directly under ours and then her music gets played which booms up through the floor (not at 5 in the morning though) but we were all teenagers at one time. We get on ok with them didn't at the beginning but they're ok now and I'm not in the frame of mind to start arguing with neighbours I've had my fill of that here over the years. Just wish I could move now the neighbours I have known for years have all either moved away or passed on and the ones moving in keep themselves to themselves it's not the same street anymore. Jay and I had put in for sheltered housing next to my sister because we're both in our 60's we qualify but unfortunately where we want it's a popular complex and no one wants to move out and you'll only get one if someone passes on or goes into a care home and they have a list as long as your arm. We are on the list but where we don't know guessing its near the bottom though because we just applied at the end of last year. My sister was lucky because there was one available when I applied for her 9 years ago. Hope you are all good today. `One Day At A Time` as the song says. One of my dad's favourite sayings too. Take Care all
Morning again Kevin is settled now and watching snooker and seems much better without meds - weird. Ot coming next week to collect stuff as it’s never going to be used now and can’t get moved for it all. Apparently the steroid injections we need aren’t available anywhere but our local little chemist had some left so dashed round and got them although they said they can’t get anymore so doctors will have to find alternative. Daughter has sorted my hair out this morning and I look a bit more presentable. Sally staying with her dad while I pop to shop for some food shopping although I have chucked loads of stuff out. She made our breakfast with a recipe she had found and I must say it was very nice and I enjoyed it. Nurse running late. Patty we are in a ground floor flat thank goodness as don’t think we would be able to manage. Nice neighbours too and we have a garden with French doors so Kevin can either look out and see birds etc of see tv. Calmer day at the moment so I’ll take that. Take care xx love Helen
ps I feel like I know you all so well now so Thankyou for being there xx
