Hi all, thank you for accepting me. My husband has been diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer. At present I am not accepting it, it makes me feel sick, panicky, shaky etc. it was a complete shock. Anybody else in the same situation. Many thanks
Good morning ladies. Just checking in to see how you are all coping. Hubby was not good the other day but I think it was because he was constipated with eating something he should not have. He won’t keep a diary. I think I am ignoring it as I have felt better well a little. Thinking of you all xx
Morning and Happy Easter to you all. Just getting on with things and trying to feed my husband all the things he previously couldn’t eaten. Full fat milk etc to try and out a bit of weight on. Our daughter has been amazing and we took him out for a long walk and a visit to his parents who are still very active in their nineties. It just isn’t fair. Feels like we are in a bubble but I’m just waiting for something to happen. Just wish I could manage to get him out of the house myself as we are stuck with a couple of steps at front and back to get into the garden. Hope everyone is doing ok x
I would not be able to manage to get my hubby out either. You are such a trooper not breaking down etc. i am on and off with shakes and anxiety but still carrying on. I really hope you can get the weight on him with everything full fat. How is your daughter coping with this xx
Thankyou. Just waiting for rapid response nurse to come now as has a rash that could be sepsis! It’s never ending. Hard work this morning getting him in shower and ready. Feel worn out! It’s starting to get me down now. X
If I lived nearer about 10 mins away I would come and help. I don’t like to think you are on your own or me dealing with this. Please let us know how things are once she has been. Can you not get any help xx
Happy Easter to you to Torry. Do you have district nurses or a community rehab team close at hand? If so maybe worth getting in contact with them. The rehab team with us have been great so far we have got a shower seat from them and bed rails and through the council we got another handrail up at the staircase for Jay this one goes the full length of the stairs we have one on the other side we put in ourselves but that's shorter and rehab though we could do with another one. and we have grabrails etc put in as well. We got rails put in too outside our front door as we have a few steps up to that too. Maybe an idea to contact them and hopefully it will help you to at least get him out the house or ask for a wheelchair maybe just a bog standard one they'll give you but it would still be a help. Take Care & Best Wishes.
As I said to Torry, try and reach out for as much help as possible within your community i.e. district nurses, rehab or anything you can think will help hubby. I was a bit `embarrassed` at first having to get people like that out. To me this only happened to other people but now its staring me in the face and it has been somewhat a relief for him to get this help. Happy Easter to you luvvi and Take Care.
At the moment he does not need the help. He does not want anyone involved to remind him. When I see the doctor next week I am going ahead with counselling. We are all missing out on so much and like you patty no doubt it will stare me in the face and I am not sure if I can deal with it but I will. Writing this at the moment I have palpitations and anxiety as I am talking about it. Hugs to you all. Maggie xx
I get you! Mine is the same doesn't want to feel he needs anyone just now. For while he is still mobile to an extent, and can eat, talk etc to me he's fine but I think it's just psychological with him just now. Yes it is horrible trying to deal with it I know you think it's not happening to you, and it just happens to other people but no there it is right in front of you. We were told we could get carers in but he doesn't want that he likes as he says his privacy he is a very private person. So we just soldier on. The help is there though if you ever need it down the line in future. Hope the counselling works out well for you. I've had telephone counselling through NHS24 and found it to be ok. Take Care.
