A stoma is not a stigma

Brilliant. 
You sum it up perfectly. My kids have a friend who had a stoma very young . They would all be jumping off the harbour in long summer evenings and he was so relaxed and at ease with his stoma that the rest of the kids never bothered at all . His mum was telling me a few years ago he has never changed and sent me a clip of Him in his twenties at a pool competition. Having a ball and could not have given a stuff what anyone else thought . 

More power to your elbow as my wee Irish dad would have said .

Court and