I got diagnosed with rectal cancer on 30th November, and having surgery in January and it's a possibility that I could end up with a stoma bag depends on how low the tumor is.and fingers crossed I wont need chemo as it hasn't spread and they think they have caught it in time.
I am 48 and safe to say I absolutely terrified of the surgery as never had any surgery through out my life. So worry about being put to sleep, I suffer with mental health to which doesn't make it any easier. Don't really talk much about how I'm feeling to my family especially my 3 children who are 26,24 and 6 year old.
My 6 year old knows mummy has to have an operation to remove lumps and bumps but think she is to young to be told that mummy has cancer. My older two know it all. But don't want to worry them on how I feel about it all.
I know it's ok not to be ok but I'm struggling even more so today after my pre op assessment
Hi Bigbird.
I felt exactly the same but I wanted that cancer in the bin more than the fear of the operation.
I had an Ileostomy and found it really no bother at all. I joined the stoma support group here and had amazing support and tips. In no time I was flying abroad easy peasy.
Keep chatting here if it helps.
Sending you a hug
Ann
Hi there. I’d never had an op either.
The surgeon explained that I would be under all day as he’d book the theatre
I thought well as long as it takes I didn’t have to worry about it as I would be asleep.
They will look after you.
Put yourself in their hands it’s the only way to get that thing in the bin.
That’s the goal get rid of that and let the experts do it.
Then when you wake up they will have everything that you need for a speedy recovery
Take care x
Ann
