Much The Same!

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Hi Everyone!

Just an update on Jay- so sorry to keep on about this as I know there are a few of you out there going through worse. Anyway, he was actually physically sick last night, and this has been a first in going right through his treatment so i'm now giving him the anti-sickness tablets. He thought it was going to happen again through the night but as it turned out it was just big burp he needed. He did actually eat a Jumbo king rib from the chippy last night and said he really enjoyed it but now in hindsight it may not have liked him and threw it back up. He has never needed the anit-sickness tablets all through his chemo as he's never felt sick or the anti-diarrhea tablets either. We also had our wee granddaughter for a sleepover last night and really, he just could not be bothered with her. She was sitting up on the chair beside him, which was fine, but she doesn't know any different and wanted to start climbing over the top of him and he really started to lose his temper with him and that's just not him as he thinks the world of her, and he hates being like this because he feels he's rejecting her and he's talking about telling our son that it's not possible for us to look after her at the moment as he is just not able to do it. His mouth is really dry too and I am wondering if any of you have any tips on how to get over that. We are about to go into the final week of cycle 4 so I am hoping when we see the oncologist on his down week, they will be able to do something for him. Thanks Everyone.

Vicky x

Kareno62 over 2 years ago

PattyK. Morning Vicky. Please don’t apologise for posting - I was wondering how Jay was so glad you posted an update. Hopefully the antisickness meds will help but it may just be a case of having something too rich and fatty on top of an already stressed out tummy. I’m sure he’ll be worrying about the scan results and this may be affecting his digestion too.

As much as he loves your granddaughter I think you are going to have to put your foot down and tell William that it’s not something that you can help with at the moment - it’s just extra stress for both of you at the moment which you can do without.

The link below is a bit of an oldie but it’s got a few ideas for helping with a dry mouth?

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/bowel-colon-rectum-cancer-forum/f/general/149745/dry-mouth

Hoping next week brings better times

Take care

Karen x

Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm

Buzz K over 2 years ago

Hi PattyK I was told to get Oralive spray from the chemist to help with dry mouth, it worked a treat for my husband and didn’t taste too bad either. I hope that helps.

I feel your pain, my husband suffered on chemo only lasted less than two sessions and had to stop so your husband has done incredibly well. Make sure he is drinking plenty, my husband wouldn’t so that didn’t help as he became dehydrated.

Karen x

PattyK over 2 years ago in reply to Kareno62

Thanks Karen!

Myla (grandaughter) gone home now to mum n dad. I was actually in tears earlier on this morning because I felt so sorry for the wee one that her papa hadn't been able to give her the attention he usually does and at one point almost lost his temper with her. Had a word with William about Jay and said there is just no way if they were thinking about us having her again this week that we just couldn't possibly, and explained that this cycle of chemo for Jay has been quite fierce but he's got an old head on a young body and appreciates that of course if they have upped his dad's chemo, he will feel it but as it turns out William is nightshift this week so he will be there during the day for Myla when Nicole (his fiancee) has to work. Sometimes their shifts clash and if she has a really early morning start and William is on nights, he can't get home in time to take her to work and to see to Myla and sometimes Jay and I have had to be over at theirs for 5 in the morning and then run Nicole to work to start at 6. Sometimes she can be finished for 11a.m. though so it's not too long to take Myla. Nicole's mum doesn't keep well either she is actually bedridden don't actually know what it is that's wrong but when they take her out which isn't that often she needs to be in a wheelchair and Nicole's dad is full time carer. so, we're `in amongst it` as they say. I had to go to the minor injuries' unit at the hospital myself today- my turn for a change. William noticed my right eye was really bloodshot and it looked really horrible and as it's something i've never had before I panicked, and Jay went with me to minor injuries. Turned out it was some kind of hemorrhage just like a bruise of burst blood vessel in your eye which the nurse said is harmless and they don't do anything for it, and it just goes away by itself. So, i sat for two hours for her to tell me that. But better safe than sorry I suppose considering it's something I've never experienced before. Jay is slightly better now. Some of his wee `one liners` are starting to surface again so that's a sign he's getting back to normal. He ate a good part of his dinner as well, but he has been having terrible wind all day he says while I was in getting my eye seen to, he felt sick again but wasn't. Watched him going up our stairs today and he just looked all of his 68 years- and more! Just need to try take it a day at a time just now and you said Karen just hope this week turns out better. Take Care

Vickyxx

PattyK over 2 years ago in reply to Buzz K

Thanks Buzz!

Will have a look at that. His mouth is really dry at the moment and some things he eats is really irritating it. Thanks again.

Vicky x

PattyK over 2 years ago in reply to Buzz K

Hi again Buzz

Oh yes he drinks plenty. He likes ice drinks quite a lot fills up a glass with ice and puts pepsi or orange juice in it plus he drinks a lot of water too.