The right way to live through New Year's Day: abandon resolutions!

More power to your elbow on that front . Great approach to treatment .

Court 

Thsnk you for the kind words, which I dont deserve  it is my husband who is currently undergoing treatment, but we are going through it together. I think I need courage more than my husband, who was raised as a Buddhist, and is managing his cancer with greater equanimity than I.

Of course you deserve the kind words too. It is not easy to watch someone you love go through. I have been watching my husband go through 2 surgeries and 4 months of chemo in the last year and then we were told in October that he is now terminal with only months left. 

Yes he is the one who is going through the treatment & illness but in some ways he has the control. He knows exactly how he feels & is able to use his medication to manage his pain levels. He has always tried to be positive and says he is going to fight it everyday. A lot of the time I feel helpless, I wish there was something more I could do for him but being here is all he wants. 

We have cried together, talked through difficult things & been able to spend time together. 

The week pre-Christmas was hard & we both cried a lot. However this last week (which has also been hard) I haven't been able to cry. It is strange how things go. 

Be kind to yourself. x 

Your post is really powerful,

I’ve been married fifty years and in that time I feel that we function as one. We are so close that each knows and feels for each. 

I’m the one that was diagnosed which is halved as my hubby was by my side. 
One month later my hubby diagnosed with Parkinson’s so I’m his support. 
We get through together though one has the prognosis we share the journey. You are going through this and please keep talking. 
It really helps others as well 

My heart goes out to you, Artsie and your husbands. May your love continue to thrive through such remarkable adversity. And I will take your advice to be kind to myself seriously,  though that has never come easily for me.

I know how you feel Jinglekitties, I have an appointment on Wednesday to decide which chemo I’m going to have, wish they didn’t give me a choice. My daughter kept the paperwork on it. I saw her New Year’s Eve. We went through. I wanted to remember which ones they were to ask on the site. My husband is now displaying signs of COVID so we both had pcr tests yesterday, so waiting on the results of that before Wednesday. If positive will have to phone. So here is to prayer, love and kindness and no more resolutions xx