Hi I am new to the group. My had has colon tumour. Awaiting surgery. Don’t know if cancer. He is very angry at me and mum. Blames us for most things. Any guidance from the group in how to handle this would be much appreciated.
Welcome to the forum . So sorry to hear about your dad . That is a very tough situation if he is projecting his emotional issues into those around him .
We have a helpline here 0808 808 0000 , the staff would be more than happy to discuss the issues with you !
If he would be open to having counselling that is available through Macmillan. https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/bowel-cancer This information takes you through the various stages of diagnosis. After surgery they send the tumour to pathology where they gather more information on the cell type which guides the next stage in the process to see if chemo is required.
If he requires a stoma a nurse will assist him to become independent using it .
All the information goes to a Multidisciplinary meeting where they decide the best treatment plan and order .
It must be tough getting blamed for something you are completely not responsible for . How are you coping ?
