Etiquette

Hi SFUC. I’m not sure if anyone’s ever asked me outright. At my first appointment with the consultant I asked if they ‘could make me better’ and they said they were treating me ‘with a view to cure’ which is what I told people. Personally I think it’s a bit of a tactless question? You could just say that treatments going well Thankyou and then change the subject? x

Having gone through cancer treatment, when I meet someone going through the same I ask them everything and anything. I do it because personally I prefer someone to ask me all the ins and outs than to feel scared to ask me. Just my point of view. Personally I wanted to share my story, it was cathertic. But if you are asked and don't want to share I would respond honestly - just explain that you find it tough to talk about, or you haven't even had those conversations yourself. I'd explain that you appreciate being asked and it's nice they show an interest. Much worse than someone treats the topic as taboo. Friendly honesty is always the best approach when dealing with something unwanted. I suppose the old adage of treating them like you would want to be treated if you asked someone a question they didn't want to answer. You could flip it around and ask them the same question. The beauty of being honest is it takes no effort, just explain your feelings and it'll always lead to the right conclusion. But also like you, I asked the surgeon to tell me only what I needed to know. I knew very little of what the treatment did, the prognosis, I didn't even know the size of the cancer. In fact one of the radiologist gave it away saying to me "because yours is quite big ...". I was annoyed she had said that but knew it wasn't meant in malace. We are damn complicated aren't we us humans :-)

That’s quite a question   ! I had to field a few awkward questions but they steered clear of my mum !

Bit much in the early days   ! Well done for going in for a look though !

Take care  

Court 

This was the partner of someone with cancer rather than a fellow traveller. Her main interest was in starting a p*ssing contest but I don't play those games!

I wonder if your full-stop has vanished as all your sentences seem to end with a (not always appropriate imo) exclamation mark.  I remember being taught  "interjections show surprise - oh! how pretty - ah! how wise".   Of course I finished school round about the end of the last ice age ...

I certainly didn't engage in any nonsense with my interrogator. 

Hi ,

Sorry , I am dyslexic and typing on my phone ! I do so much on here in between my other tasks in life I don’t always proof read ! You will be correct of course but you will find this type of error literally throughout my posts ! It does embarrass me when I look back but to take the time to correct it all  I would have to stop posting ! 
Sometimes when I reread them I see them and edit ! It’s a glitch in my neural network ! My son has it too but managing his masters project despite it !

The other way it affects me is trying to remember the user name ! I can’t tell you how many times I scroll back , get a letter or two , add them and then have to do the same for the next two letters . Worse when it’s a collection of letters or numbers and not a name !

But it’s part of me and I try my best !

Court 

Don't mind me - I think the radiotherapy is reaching my grumpy gland

Hi court I'm also dyslexic, spelling awful.when tired write numbers back to front and also use the words now and know in the wrong places! Just saying. Oh also court my home treatment is good. Claterbridge have been doing it for about 5 years. Christes Manchester do it too. X

You go for it Court .You don't have to try your best .Just be yourself  Dealing and caring with any form of Cancer is a horrendous experience ,let alone watching  our grammar .That's it I'm away to stick a pin in my doll.

I think you do just fine court. I have never seen evidence of dyslexia and hadn’t considered for a second you have it. Exclamation marks or whatever do not detract from your message ever. I read your stuff all the time. Be you.