Just feeling miserable

Hi Trevaughan. You can moan all you like on here - that’s what we’re here for. I totally remember feeling exactly the same and saying to my hubby that I was fed up of feeling rubbish and just wanted to feel like me again. Yes there’s always someone worse off but, if I’m honest, that didn’t make me feel any better. I think every now and again you’re entitled to a bit of a pity party - you’ve been through a big op and it’s had a serious effect on your lifestyle. The nurses told me that recovery was about 5 weeks and you could look at driving at 6 weeks or whenever you could manage an emergency stop. I think I was told no heavy lifting for 3 months? Are you getting out and doing a bit of walking? Meeting friends for coffee? You could do some light housework just no hoovering. Plant some bulbs in the garden or pots. Is your work something that you could do from home or a phased return into the office?

I had a mantra that i borrowed from another member which was ‘This too shall pass’ and it will pass - the days and weeks can seem to drag on but you are slowly but surely getting there

Theres a link below to a booklet off the Bowel Cancer UK Board and you can always ring the nurses on here if you want to offload to someone on 0808 808 00 00

https://bowelcancerorguk.s3.amazonaws.com/Publications/LivingWell_BowelCancerUK.pdf

Take care

Karen x

thank you, Karen ... I needed to hear that - and the link is helpful too.

I've found myself in the same situation so I've decided to do a macmillan coffee morning on the 24th sep I've put my mind in to it making organcer bags with lavender and sweets in them and filled jars with sweets doing raffled in has took my mind off so meny things that have been getting  me down hope this helps helen take care x

Perhaps focus on what you CAN do rather than what yo cannot do. !? My old life disappeared after diagnosis. I had a fit active life. Now, i cannot do them. I spend much of time doing little things at home. Take one day at a time because noone knows what tomorrow will bring. ! 

Hi. My tumour has spread to other organs and is non operable. I am not bitter and wish you well, Try looking outwards at others less fortunate and you'll start feeling better x

Brilliant idea Bop

Hi

I have been on this forum for over a decade and notice once the adrenaline settles , the urgency of treatment finishes , the support and structure reduces is when the enormity of it all suddenly hits people . When they actually have space to contemplate what they have just endured ! However I also notice they work through it and often come back several months or years later and are in a very different place . Life creeps back in and takes over it seems . However , if you need to talk to your Gp I can thoroughly recommend that too ! I was a relative not a patient but my GP has been a great help on a few occasions navigating these difficult illnesses !

Take care ,

Court 

That's a lovely idea!

That makes sense, @Court ... thank you x

I am sorry to read this, @Klb16sheep ... you are of course right and it is helpful to realise that my situation could be worse.  I hope that you are able to find some time to see the people that you want to see, and do some things that make you smile x