My dad went in this morning for his supposed operation, ive been a mess all week at work crying on colleagues, been depressed and my poor old dad worried to death about what may happen as hes not in great health. Anyway my dad had a call last night to say to come in into the hospital at 10am instead of 7 due to bed space, he'd gone through all the isolation, covid tests, taken all his prep medication, dealt with the diorhea and starved himself since 5pm yesterday. I dropped him this morning, then i went hone in floods of tears and feel currently like im boarding on a break down of some sort due to the stress of it all... I just want it all over my dad home (we had the op cancelled once due to dad picking up a chest infection so had to wait an additional 2 weeks) anyhow so today dad kept us informed via text, they took him into the theatre ward, took bloods, was marked up for a potential stoma, the surgion saw him for a chat and said he'd see him in a hour or so for the op... Only for the nuse to turn up after this to say he wouldn't be having the op and to go home as they had no beds available!!!.... As you can imagine im in a right state as we now have to do all this again and i cant take anymore, and what if the cancer is spreading in the mean time, hows my poor dad feeling, if they cant even get the bed situation right, he didnt sleep worrying last night, i just feel awful for my dad and feel ike the hopsital have been so cruel to get him to this stage, completely worry us all sick, go tjrough all the crap prior to be told to go home at the last second.... why on earth would they tell us to come in and do everything if it wouldnt be gping ahead, surely they must have known there were no beds this morning... i feel so angry there putting my dad, myself and my family through all this again. Its not right. Its causing so much anxiety and stress for everyone. Just feel like we all need some support right now, im at my whits end, they dont see the effects it has on every one else apart from the patient and even thats not good! .. Sorry for long post. I just dont know what to do right now.
So sorry to hear that you are having such a stressful time. After my operation I woke up on the Heart ward. I knew it because my husband had been there as a day patient. The hospital had taken the Bowel wards for Covid patients and shared the heart ward meaning half the patients and twice the work.
I hope your dad has his operation soon.
Ann
