Anxious!!

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My partner is pacing around - moods is all over the place… trying my hardest to bite my tongue and support him as much as I can and looking after my 5 months old and trying to minimise my 13 year old’s worries at the same time… he’s due to have op on Wednesday afternoon and he is terrified… so am I! I don’t know how I will cope without him… I’m so scared what if they tell me that they are unable to remove the gland in abdominal cavity it’s so hard not to think all the negatives or what if things went wrong in the theatre. I was wondering if any one of you had an op on your abdominal cavity and was it successful? How many hours? I’m trying so hard to stay positive for my partner’s sake. I’m not trying to sound selfish because he is the one who’s got cancer and having an op but it’s bloody hard for me to watch him because he’s love of my life, a father to my 2 beautiful sons and about to tie a knot in a couple of weeks time… I have to put my emotions aside because it’s not about me… sorry for waffling on

Tony73 over 3 years ago

Theres some useful info on this site. I fell into googling which perhaps unwise. I try and take one step at a time which is difficult but speculation brings more worry.

court over 3 years ago

Hi Twinkles07

I think it’s only natural to explore the “what if scenarios” that evade our minds . Then I would stop and remind myself it was only anxiety expressing itself ! It was not fact ! The facts are from the information available he is a surgical candidate and the scans have been well examined by this stage . They will be operating with “curative” intent ! Every time the doubts creep in you remind yourself .

He will be cancer free when you get married ! That’s a beautiful thought !

Glad you came here to let this fear out and receive support as I think most of us here have wrestle with it . It’s a horrible emotion that builds but it is caused by anxiety and thankfully clinically all is still looking good !

I used to always imagine what the surgical team would be thinking on the morning of the surgery ! Another day at work helping someone get back to their life cancer free ! Skilled hands and a good team around them .

Hope you have a better day today !

Court

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Moi2 over 3 years ago

Hi Twinkles07 It's only natural to be worried. At the begining of my cancer trip I was just like your husband. Then I realised my husband was falling apart . Your the strong girl holding your familyogether so waffle as much as you like. Good luck hope all goes well with the op

court over 3 years ago

Hope it all went well Twinkles07

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Twinkles07 over 3 years ago in reply to Moi2

Thank you I have updated on a new post.