Depression

Hi 

Such a shame for your husband . He really is dealing with two conditions at once . I was wondering if his GP might be worthwhile involving . It was not the first time I phoned my mum’s Gp and left a note of concern over different issues . We have a wonderful Gp who was often able to subtly intervene and she responded to his role more than ours !

Additionally a chat with our helpline team might have some suggestions . 0808 808 0000. It does sound as though he needs some professional intervention to address his clinical needs .

You can only do so much and sometimes you have to pass it onto the professional . His oncologist might also be able to help .

Take care ,

Court 

Hi, Chemo causes severe fatigue, its not the same as being tired, its like all the life and goodness has been sucked out of you, Im not suprised hes sleeping a lot, that said the NHS is really, really crap at the mental health side of cancer, really crap, I started anti depressants when I was diagnosed and 3 years later im on them and tbh have no intention coming off them, I also paid for private counselling post chemo

If there is a St Baranabas day centre near you they are very good, my wife took me to one on the pretence of getting a free head massage lol and the lady in there got me talking,

I know it sounds horrible he might not want to talk to you about it at the minute , remember your his wife not his carer, that sounds harsh I know but thats how I felt

chemo is really really awful, the only break you get from it is when you are asleep I would give him a couple of weeks then dump him at a Maggies or a St Barnabas, ring first and talk to them, then just dump him and run 

PS at the centre, obvs go back for him, dont dump him and run away for ever, that said, if you run away to Crete can I come and keep company, in a purely platonic way of course, Im happily married 

PPS thought Id mention the married bit in case you got the wrong Idea about Crete

Thank you for cheering me up with this, he doesn’t seem like my husband at the moment. Seeing the oncologist today and hope they may suggest some counselling for him too 

Crete sounds wonderful though!!!