Cannot accept news that he has cancer

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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My husband received the news over the phone two weeks ago that he has cancer in his transverse colon. He has had Lymphoma which is in remission but fhis was thrown up from a CT sc.an. He is now so scared and will not talk to the surgeon or supporting nurse who want to talk it through with him. I am so worried about him and just do not know now what to do He will not talk to me or his daughters about it either. He is just trying to forget about it and gets upset and angry if I try to talk to him about it. Anyone else experienced this

Nelly1955 over 4 years ago

Hello Frisbie, I can understand how your husband is feeling. When I first got diagnosed I was fine but after a while I started getting overwhelming anxiety. And I still it hard to face and I’ve had my treatment my husband just keeps telling me that I’m fine, but I still don’t feel fine. I’m waiting on results, and there’s a lot of waiting. That’s sometimes the worst part. It’s great your husband is in remission from Lynphoma. To have to start more treatment must be so hard. There are a lot of very nice and knowledgeable people on here, I’m sure someone will give you good advice. Would it help you if you called the Macmillan site and spoke to a nurse or a support worker. I speak to them a lot and I find them very caring and helpful. My husband was here one day when I called and put my phone on loud speaker so he could say how he felt about this. Because it’s the whole family who are going through this very hard time. Sending you hugs Nelly xx

Kareno62 over 4 years ago

Hi You’ve had a lovely reply from Nelly. Bowel cancer does not go away on its own but it is very treatable and there are lots of success stories on this board. If you click on my name then you can see my profile page abd my treatment to date albeit with a couple of hiccups. If you’d like to ring the nurses to have a chat then the number is 0808 808 00 00.

I really hope your husband is able to come to terms with this and get a treatment plan in place - it’s doesn’t seem fair after he’s done so well with the lymphoma but I’m sure he’ll be able to overcome this next hurdle too

Take care

Karen x

Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to Nelly1955

Thank you Nelly for your reply. My daughters are going to try and talk to their dad again this evening to see if they can get him to talk at least to our GP. I feel sick with worry at the moment and just hope we can both talk to a support team to see what treatment they can offer him. I hope all is well with you and thank you again for your reply. Sending you hugs too xx

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to Kareno62

Hallow Karen Thank you for your reply. You have been through a lot so understand what it is like to be given this news. Take care and hope things are going well for you xx