Stage 4 ! The unexpected hits you between the eyes!

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Think everyone here can associate with the overwhelming emotions that come with a cancer diagnosis in a family . The pace of change is fast  and in a stage four setting each procedure and consultation just kept getting worse and putting distance between the safety of the life that used to be and the one that was emerging and in the early days I kept wondering how on Earth did she end up here , going from being asymptomatic to taking part in the newly rolled out bowel screening program and ending up inoperable only a few weeks later ! 
I think we all stopped looking for a cure and focused on living from scan to scan . Over 35 scans later a deep appreciation for the way they have  contributed to my mum’s survival surfaced . She carved out a good life for herself but thought it would always be part of her life !

I am cleaning out her attic as it will come as no surprise that she is frequently found dangling from unsafe ladders despite neuropathy and we need to act! A proper staircase needs to go in ! 
The hospital consultant rang whilst I was up there and what a surprise! They congratulated her for reaching five years without a further recurrence. Twelve years of surviving stage 4 cancer and all she has endured . They don’t  expect to see further disease , don’t need to scan and could be discharged but they will phone her in a year to check up on her as she is not quite ready to cut all ties ! 
They consider her “ cured” ! Well done mum and many , many thanks to her wonderful team ! We shall in a strange way miss you all !

Hope it brings a little encouragement to those going through the very difficult period of being diagnosed!

Take care ,

Court 

  • Wow , what wonderful news. So pleased for you and your mum.

    Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!

  • Hi Court,

    That is lovely news. Thank you for sharing it x

    Sarah 

  • That is amazing news and so lovely for you and your family I'm sure you've struggled long and hard and  last you there wonderfulThumbsupThumbsup

    Missymoo2

  • Well @court I have not been on forum for a week maybe more and I decided to log on just now and wow, I was hit between the eyes too....but in the nicest, kindest way that there could possibly be, what fantastic wonderful amazing news....so many great words to use...what a day to celebrate...what a woman your mum is what a woman you are, what a family...joyous absolutely  joyous news, a fabulous post..possibly the best I have ever read and I couldn’t be happier for you all sending hugs and mountain of joy to you all xxxx

  • Not been around so much, just seen this.......wonderful news  both for you and your mum. I think you need to take some credit for looking after her, and looking out for her, for so long! Long may it continue! And yes it gives us all hope. 

  • That is fabulous news Court! I found out in September that my cancer came back and am Stage 4, your mum's news has given me real hope for the future.  Thank you x

  • Thank you everyone  for all your kindness and support! It has given her a real boost ! 

    Although often very frightening it has also been  amazing to see what her team have achieved . She is one robust lady ! It’s so encouraging to see oncology develop over the last twelve years . 

    Very grateful to have found this forum all those years ago .

    Have a good day !

    Court 

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  • Wishing you every success  Hope treatment is going ok ! 
    Court 

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  • Oh thanks  given what you all go through I certainly got the easier end but turn up and do what I can ! 

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  • So , so glad it gave you a boost too! Hoping all is well in your house too! 

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