Concerned for dad

Welcome 

That was quite a shock for both you and your dad . But bowel cancer caught early has a really good prognosis. There is a lot of people fully recovered here who stay and encourage others . The team will plan a good treatment approach for him . You can ask anything you like here.

My tip for surviving this horrible part and honestly this often is the worst , is to keep your mind where your body is . Do not allow it to turn to worst case outcomes . Stick with the facts as you know them . He has a condition that will require treatment and assistance to allow him to return to his full health . Repeat it as often as you need .

My mum had advanced disease at diagnosis and she is still here 12 years later . Bowel cancer has many treatment options so it’s not without hope .

Hold on tight ,

Court 

Hi just read your post, keep strong and sending positive thoughts for your dad x it was great the hospital let you go in as my mom had her diagnosis on Good Friday 2021, she had been admitted to hospital a week before dehydrated being sick and lots of pain, we didn’t know she had stage 4 cancer at this stage -  but she was on her own when they told her. It’s been a roller coaster of emotions ever since, I hope you have the direction now  and emotionally are ok as can be x

Thank you Court 

we are slightly further on dad has an appointment with the surgeon today and a date for surgery although we are still yet to have any staging of the cancer we were told he would know more after the operation. It has been a strange time with emotions all over the place. Dad is being very practical about things which is upsetting mum but I suppose everyone deals with things differently. I saw dad yesterday he’s worried about the operation he’s never had an operation in his life he’s scared he’s going to die. Anyway I just have to keep strong for them both but I know I’m struggling as I’m not sleeping well although I’m trying to be kind to myself and keeping my thoughts in check I just wish this would all go away. It sucks

Hi feathersss 

sorry to hear about your mum this is such an emotional time and how sad your mum was alone when she was told. How are you doing? How’s your mum?

Dad has an appointment for an operation in May and we have an appointment with the surgeon today, so have a list of questions. It’s a really tricky time trying to be strong for your parents and holding it together running your own family if I’m honest I’m struggling I just want it all to go away but for now I’m going to put my grown up hat on and deal with what comes our way and hopefully after the operation we will have more answers and direction.

take care I hope you’re doing ok x

Hi 

You can reassure your dad deaths in theatre are very rare these days if it’s that aspect that concerns him . They keep a very close eye on infections and complications afterwards and treat any right away so it’s important to raise any concerns .

However it’s totally understandable and hopefully with the right support he will be reassured by the anaesthetist. They do this frequently and put the patient at ease . They know this is a very real fear and distract and engage them well . I have to say the porters are stars at that too.

It won’t be long now and he will be safely in recovery and restored to his life and family .

Court