Hi all I’ve just found out Wednesday after having problems for a while i have cancer just by examination and the consultants experience he can tell it’s malignant and a fair size, i have so so questions I don’t know anything about it I’ve never even known anyone with cancer before, I’m due a CTscan on Tuesday and yet to book MRI and camera/biopsy I don’t even know excatly where it i know its near the entrance but thats it I’m so scared I’m 46 have young children and have no idea how this treatment will effect my ability to care for them and my everyday chores i am a single parent whos been through domestic abuse relationship and the father has no access to my children any info plz will be great its the not knowing thats the worst part not knowing if its spread or did i leave it too late etc etc
thanks louise
Hi Lou.loouand a warm welcome to the board from me although I’m sorry that you’ve found yourself here. These first few days/weeks are the worst while you wait for scans, results, meetings etc. Please do not google. It is out of date and downright scary in places. Stay on here and/or the Bowel Cancer UK Board - You can ask anything you want on here - there is no question too daft or embarrassing.
Bowel Cancer is very treatable nowadays and the fact that it’s a fair sized tumour does not mean it is more serious than a small tumour. My tumour was 4cm on diagnosis and shrank to 1cm after radiotherapy. The scans will determine the size and position of the tumour and also check to see if there has been any spread to other organs (although this is still treatable.) Once you have a treatment plan in place then things will feel a little better. You may have radiotherapy first to shrink the tumour or go straight to surgery - this will all be discussed at the MDT (multi disciplinary team) by specialists from every field then they will meet with you to update you on your treatment plan. You should be allocated a Colorectal Support Nurse too who will support you and answer any questions you may have.
If you click on my name then you can see my profile page and see what treatment I had. I continued to work during my radiotherapy and rearranged appointments to fit round my work. Unfortunately everyone responds differently to treatment but I was lucky to have no real side effects with that stage of treatment.
Ive attached a link to a booklet from another forum board Bowel Cancer UK which will give you an idea of what to expect. Like you I didn’t know anyone else who’d had Bowel cancer so it was good to have a bit of a heads up and also gave me an idea of what questions to ask at the meeting.
https://bowelcancerorguk.s3.amazonaws.com/Publications/YourPathway_BowelCancerUK.pdf
We’re a friendly gang on here and everyone is at different stages of treatment/recovery so please keep posting and ask anything you want to know.
Sending you a big hug - it’s gonna be tough but we’ll help you get through this
Take care
Karen x
Hi Lou.loou. I had rectal cancer last year. I had radiotherapy and chemotherapy for 5 weeks. I could have worked during my treatment but I had to travel for my treatment as we don't have a radiotherapy department at my local hospital. I didn't have many side effects. I had surgery which gave me a permanent stoma. I don't have many problems with it. I had 6 months of adjuvant chemotherapy afterwards to make sure it doesn't come back. (Hopefully) Good luck with your treatment plan. Love Kim
Hi ya can i ask how was the radiotherapy for you ive just basically breezed through 4 months of chemo and now I’m starting chemoradiotherapy and I’m anxious as side effects they say are bad but I didn’t have really any side effects from just the chemo so I’m hoping i might be ok with radiotherapy as well, I’m more anxious of how they do it as in are you exposed led on ur back or front I’m not a small size and have an apron stomach from c-sections I’m going for my planning next week and am worried about being naked on there, thanks
Hi Lou.loou. I had my chemo radiotherapy before my surgery and I sailed through it. After my surgery I had 6 months of adjuvant chemotherapy. I had really sore hands and feet with the skin peeling and cracking. My chemo dose was reduced but it didn't seem to be any better. I think you just have to grit your teeth and hope for the best. You get there in the end.
Good luck!
Love Kim xx
I’ve done my chemo its the radiotherapy i and was asking about sorry if i wasnt clear
I had both together initially. The radiotherapy takes a few minutes and is just you lying on the treatment table while a scanner revolves around you. I had no problems other than my skin was a bit flaky. One of the radiographers recommended that I use Fairy washing products. She was right. I still use it.
Love Kim xx
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