Had a couple of scary days. My husband saw his bowel cancer doctor on Wednesday and he was charming and very reassuring. The consultation, which included seeing the scans for the first time which did show that the cancer had spread to the liver, plus the blood tests took about an hour. The outcome of the consultation was that he would need to build up my husband's body for the next couple of weeks as he is too weak to take chemo. That all seemed self explanatory and we were allowed to go home, although his doctor did say that he ought to come into hospital asap. We drove home and had been indoors no more than 2 hours when we were called back to hospital as my husband's kidney function had dropped significantly (from 96 down to 9 in two weeks). My husband had been suffering with diarrhoea since he had his endoscopy two weeks ago and this had caused the dramatic drop in the kidney function. I suppose my question is, is it usual for people to have such a violent reaction to the endoscopy as my husband was well before it?
I was really scared I was losing him on Wednesday as I could see he was struggling and when doctors start talking about resuscitation it all gets very real. Thankfully, my husband had stabilised yesterday, but it is very much a day to day process. Thanks for listening.
Gosh that is such a scary time for you but delighted to hear he has stabilised. Such good news there .
I have never actually heard of that complication following a scope . However if you click on my name you can read my bio on behalf of my mum who is also a stage 4 patient and has had her share of bumps along the way . It gives you such a fright but reassuring that there are people working hard on their behalf .
I wish him a speedy recovery .
take care,
Court
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Hi Court
It is good news on the kidney front. Unfortunately, though because my husband's cancer has spread to the liver and is also eating away at the lining of the bowel, it doesn't look as though the doctors can do much more than keep my husband as comfortable as possible. I was told 4- 8 weeks today, which has hit me sideways a bit.
Just having a nice cup of tea to calm me down a bit!
Hi ,
I am so sorry to hear that . What a lot for you both to process. He is having a tough time . Very , very hard to come to terms with .
We are hear to support you through this too . Not easy either .
Take special care tonight ,
Court
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Di
You have heard the news that everyone dreads and there are no words that can really comfort you I would imagine. I suspect I am not the only one here who is wanting to support you and who doesn't have the right words, as there aren't any. I wish you both strength and the comfort of being together through these most difficult of times.
Nicky
Hi Nicky
Many thanks for taking the time to reply.
We had a good day together today and I think that is what we both have to do - enjoy the good days.
I think what I am finding a little confusing is that the cancer doctor is giving us one prognosis 're my husband's life expectancy, whereas the other doctors who are dealing with the kidney and liver issues are giving us another more hopeful life expectancy. My husband doesn't want to go yet and I am hoping his strength of spirit will keep him going a while longer yet.
Hi I am so sorry to hear what you have been told, and Nicky is right, I personally had wanted to connect but unsure how to respond as words seem inadequate.
but i also realise it is all I can offer and kind thoughts for you and your husband and of course my prayers which you have.
i hope the kidney and liver doctors are right, and it is good your husband has strength of spirit it sounds like that is helping you too.
so so pleased you had a good day today, they are so precious
with love and a virtual hug
Process xxx
Hi Process
Thank you so much for your kind words - believe me they are a great comfort.
The saline drip was removed before I left last night which clearly gives my husband greater freedom of movement. Hopefully they might remove the catheter today too, which will be even better. My husband even managed to eat all his tomato soup last night, which is the first time I've seen him finish a dish for several days.
Hopefully today will be good too.
Lots of love and a virtual hug back. x
Hi Process
Thank you so much for your kind words - believe me they are a great comfort.
The saline drip was removed before I left last night which clearly gives my husband greater freedom of movement. Hopefully they might remove the catheter today too, which will be even better. My husband even managed to eat all his tomato soup last night, which is the first time I've seen him finish a dish for several days.
Hopefully today will be good too.
Lots of love and a virtual hug back. x
Oh I am so pleased to hear all your update, sounds like upwards movement on many fronts, including him personally moving more freely.
may the improvement continue
xx with love
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