Advice

Hi ,

Sorry to hear about your dad . I was wondering if the Macmillan helpline might be a good resource for you . I am very sure they will have encountered this before and maybe be able to give you some guidance on how best to open up a conversation .

You do sound very appropriate though in your consideration of the situation . It must be very difficult for you .

The hospital staff may also be able to help you have the conversation with him . 

The helpline number is 0808 808 0000,

My friend has used them and they were very understanding .

take care,

Court 

Hi, 

thank you for your reply.

i have managed to broach the subject with him today with a bit of success and a bit more understanding, but I think I will still call the helpline for a bit more clarity. Thank you again

I'm very sorry that you've had to come to us at this time to ask for advice on speaking to your dad about his last wishes but we are very pleased that you felt that you could reach out to us to ask questions and I hope that we will be able to give you some help and advice.

It is a very difficult conversation to have at this time and it's hard trying to find the right words and trying to do it sympathetically.

Don't be put of by the titles of the following, the Macmillan one is a checklist for the person nearing end of life but with a bit of tweaking it becomes questions that you could be asking your dad, you might find that you dont need to ask all of them.

The Sue Ryder one is Better Death Guide and might give you some pointers on the things your dad may say to you and how you should respond. When you open up the link you'll will then have to put in your email address and give them as little information as you want and the guide will start to download.

Macmillans Let's Talk about death a checklist 

Sue Ryder Better Death Guide

Hope the above may help you further prepare yourself for the difficult conversation

Ian

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Thank you Ian for the information I’ll have a read through. Unfortunately I don’t have many people to speak to about this and it has been a real help talking to people who understand.