Need A Wee Virtual Hug

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So, I'm not updating on Jay today, I just need one of you out there to send me a wee virtual hug. Been having one of those days you know when you feel `yeuch` but don't know why. Everything has been going ok over the last week or so and things are sort of starting to come together a bit for Jay his physiotherapy has been referred for, he just needs to wait for an appointment to come through now, he's getting up in the morning on his own and getting dressed, we're starting to get out and about again- be it in the car but still out. William and Nicole and wee Myla visited yesterday, and my heart melted because the first thing she asked for when she came in was `papa` and she was looking around for him but then when she saw him went all shy and avoided him. William and Nicole had some holidays to take so they've both been off over the last week. These things have all been good but then earlier on I went into the bathroom and floodgates opened and I don't know why that was. Do these things just creep up on you?? We also have his oncology appointment in 3 weeks' time and it's a worry what is going to happen then if they say there's nothing more than can be done as they can't carry on with the chemo because of his kidneys. When the oncologist saw Jay in hospital, he said there are `other avenues` they can go down but don't what. We've both been having a bit of a rotten day so maybe it's just been a `down day` for us both. Jay's catheter supplies got delivered as well not a great thing to get excited about but he's been waiting for them coming in so he now has a supply of those as well as his stoma stuff. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.

Vicky x

Faloola over 2 years ago

Cath

PattyK over 2 years ago in reply to Faloola

Aww Thanks Cath! I needed that

PattyK over 2 years ago in reply to PattyK

How do you get those big emojis up

Faloola over 2 years ago in reply to PattyK

You’re welcome ️️️We all need wee pick ups.

Cath

Faloola over 2 years ago in reply to PattyK

When I send a message I just click on the smiley face on the left hand side of my phone at the bottom and they come up. ️xx

Cath

PattyK over 2 years ago in reply to Faloola

Ah I see! I'm doing mine from the laptop I know it would work on the phone.

MissTee over 2 years ago

Sending you the biggest hugs xxx

MissTee over 2 years ago

Sweetie you're allowed to feel miserable and weepy once in a while, you're going through this just as Jay is, you're his biggest support and ther will be times when things get on top of you, amd as I've noticed with Steve, sometimes the one going through the pysicalaties of cancer, most people when they meet you, whether family or friends, their first course of action is to go into sympathy mode with the one who has cancer, without thinking that the supporter who deals with the shit and tears, Steve said that, is very often barely greeted and then pushed to the background. I've not been online much, sorry, I did get your private message, and I'm glad he's home with you, 36yrscis a long time, and you love the bones of him, I know you're scared of what the outcome may be, and I know you need some support too. Isn't there a support group near you? In a village near me we have a church group that not only people with cancer, but their supporters too, can go hqve a chat, a massage, reflexology, facials all sorts of things, Steve wouldn't go with me, but my sister did, and there was so much that they helped her to understand, I don't know ifbtheres somewhere near you, mybsister went to them when I was in hospital, and they were great, especially after the 2nd op, which was 3rd time in hospital in 3 weeks, she was very nervous, but they were great. You need to remember that you need support too, go have a wander and a cry now and then, then come back with a smile. Take care, shout if you need me xxx I can't find the emoji thing xxx