Hi Everyone!
Our son William phoned us earlier to say he is coming to visit tomorrow with his partner and our wee granddaughter. We have not told him about Jay's cancer spread yet and we have not told my sister either. We wanted to wait until this Thursday before we see the oncologist again to see what treatment is happening. Jay goes back to see the oncologist after finishing his course of water tablets because of the problems with his kidneys. William asked us to look after our granddaughter this week and Jay told him no we can't because of the way he is. If we tell William about Jay's cancer, we know he will freak, because last year when we found out the first time, he had it he got himself into a state and let all his friends know. We know he was scared though. William is going to be 30 in March next year, but he is still our `little boy` so to speak and his job requires him to drive a distance there and back and it's in our thoughts now that if we tell him the truth, he'll have it in his head and think the worse for his dad and if he's driving, he'll hit something, or his work will suffer. As an idea we are trying to find a roundabout way to tell him that it is possible- and it probably will be a possibility that Jay will need to go into hospital for this procedure of a nephostromy or stent before they will let him have more chemo which in a way is the truth. We are thinking in telling him that the chemo treatment he was on has had an adverse effect on his kidneys- which I have read on the cancer research website can happen- and this is why they stopped the chemo and will resume it after they do what they have to do with his kidneys. Does that sound ok? Would like anyone's views on it. Thanks
Vicky x
