Low rectal cancer diagnosis.

Ouch! No answers, just sending you both a (((hug)))

Hi 

Sometimes hearing the extent of the surgery is very , very frightening and there was many times I wished I could have erased the surgeons words whilst understanding they need to fully consent and it was part of the process .

My take from what you have written . It’s a bit more complex for sure but you are in the very best hospital , he is still operable and they will take you both through it step by step . Others have had their coccyx removed but might not be around here to encourage you at the moment .

Truthfully it was only when my mum was safely through that I felt I could settle a little .

Hold onto the fact he is still operable and in the U.K. they still only operate with curative intent .

We are here with you to support you both .

Plastic surgeons can be involved in some bowel surgery so whilst it sounds frightening others have come through this .

Does he have a date scheduled?

Take care ,

Court 

Hi Court. He has to go back tomorrow for an MRI. He was originally being treated at Royal Bolton Hosp..but Christie's have now taken over. His last MRI was in October so they want to check there are no changes, if not they will have him in in January, if anything has changed they want another round of chemo before operating. 

Thanks for replying..its just overwhelmed me today..the sheer scale of the operation. I dont know anyone e that has been through similar.

Thanks x

I have seen similar on previous posts and the surgeons most definitely will do . My mum had to have more chemo but the upside was better margins , although in her liver the fear is the same .

You have been passed to a centre of excellence where the surgeons are skill and trained to that level of complexity. I am still grateful to this day that my mum got referred to one . Your local hospital did the right thing . 
Hopefully surgery will be early January and my way of coping was to look at the long game angle . Aim at the cure and take the road that leads to that . 
It is very overwhelming and you are only human . There were days I had to find more solid ground too . I just about fell off my chair when the surgeon said he was removing 73% of my mum’s liver but I could see her out the corner of my eye and I held it together.

I honestly felt unraveled until she was through it but she got there and the skills of the surgeon was just amazing .

How is your husband coping ?

Court 

Hi Court. He's in shock very frightened but as you say we need to concentrate on it as being a means to an end.

Thank you for taking the time to reply, means a lot.

Jen