Hi

I’m so sorry to read this. Such an awful thing to tell your grandchildren. Keep strong and lots of positive thoughts 

https://bowelcancerorguk.s3.amazonaws.com/Publications/TreatingAdvancedBowelCancer_BowelCancerUK.pdf

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/bowel-colon-rectum-cancer-forum/f/bowel-colon-rectum-cancer-forum/221768/chemo-care-top-tips--

Welcome to the forum  . A very difficult few weeks for you and your family . Hopefully they will get a good plan in place to help get the disease stabilised soon . I have linked in a booklet which is good at giving some insight into the management of bowel cancer that has spread and a thread of top tips for chemotherapy which you might find beneficial as you prepare for treatment .

If you click on my user name you can read how my mum navigated through a spread to her liver . Going straight to chemotherapy gave them the opportunity to gain stability and shrinkage . This actually opened up other avenues for her but others may continue using chemotherapy over many years and you will see people on their 5th and 6 th year of treatment on forums living a good life despite a difficult diagnosis. Others may not get the same response unfortunately but it’s not a situation without hope .

Initially it’s very hard as the Drs are guarded until the see how effective chemotherapy is but after they get a feel for you as an individual they do work very hard to make sure the very best treatment package is available. 
Bowel cancer as a primary has quite a few different chemotherapy agents for the oncologist to work with and very recently Immunotherapy is now emerging .

Please feel free to ask anything you wish . We will do our best to support you .

Take care ,

Court