Dad has been given a terminal diagnosis but had a first and final blast of radiotherapy last October along with 5 blood transfusions because he was bleeding so profusely. Thankfully the radiotherapy did stop the bleeding, until now.
Dad is now having regular shows of blood in his urine (which he is having extreme difficulty passing). He was due to have a repeat cytoscopy on 25th Jan which they aborted as they could not insert the camera so he is now going into hospital on 10th March (providing his pre-op checks he had on 1st March are approved) to have a cytoscopy with an epidural.
My dad also has end stage heart failure, only 20% of his heart is working along with kidney damage following sepsis in June last year.
Dad is also suffering bowel incontinence now on quite a regular basis and I don't know if this is connected to his cancer or something else entirely. He won't call the Dr about it so things are getting very messy and he is getting upset and depressed about it. He will only leave the house to go food shopping and is eating far too much (I guess it is really the only pleasure he has left now).
The consultants have failed to give some sort of prognosis but I feel if he knew, he could settle himself, knowing it is not going to go on forever. I don't really know what else I can do for him so wanted to reach out for anybody who has / had a similar situation and for any information or advice people can offer. I am also disabled and the stress, worry and everything else that goes along is taking its toll on me too. Any information or advice would be gratefully received.
Thank you so much.
