No desire to do anything!

Ivymay, 

Do not let this consume you, you need to stay positive keep upbeat, before I see my oncologist I made sure that I was well informed with everything then when speaking to him I was able to understand what he was saying, I made sure I asked all the questions I needed to know the answers to. 

All my family and friends have commented on how I haven’t fallen to pieces and how relaxed I am about my advanced stage  4.

I know Everyone Is different, but I’m damed  if this cancer is going to get the best of me, I have not and will not let it consume me Fact.

sending love x x

Hi - I'm the opposite. I have friends but they aren't really helping, although I want them to. I've told them I'm struggling but nobody (except one who is nearly 80) offers to help. I have just finished my first week's treatment and have no desire for TV, reading or anything. I've now advertised for help for 6-8 weeks.

Please don't be too hard on yourself, or expect too much.  You undoubtedly have had a huge shock with the diagnosis and have disappeared into your own protective bubble.  In the early days I did the same, and then life took on a new norm with all the appointments and treatment.  And without a doubt, getting out even just for a short walk can lift the spirits.  Once the oncologist has outlined a treatment plan life for you life can feel more positive.  It can be a tough journey, undoubtedly, so although you may not feel like being helped that may change.  If you carry on feeling like this, please don't hesitate to see your GP; some of us need an extra bit of help (I did) and it made a huge difference to me.  Please come back and let us know how you get on.

My heart goes out to you Puddy.  Sometimes people just don't realise what is entailed with a cancer diagnosis and the treatment, I certainly didn't until it happened to me.  I do hope you find someone who can be a real help in the coming weeks. x