Giving up

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Hi don't know if any one can offer any advise,but here goes,my husband was diagnosed in March 2020 with cancer of esophagus with spinal and rib mets, hes 58, he has just done his 3rd cycle of chemo and has suffered with dreadful fatigue, taken longer after each cycle to get any where near his normal self, this last time has been the hardest for him, he has a scan on Friday and a video call next Friday,but today he is saying even if the consultant suggests doing the next 3 cycles he isn't going to he cannot carry in feeling like this for another 3 months, we have been told his cancer is incurable hence all treatments are palliative,  he is saying he doesn't want to feel crap for however long he has, I want to support him in what ever decision he mades,but I don't want him to give up ,please help I don't know what to say to him anymore. 

  • I hope there was some good news on the call Julie, and Sal good luck with the call on Wednesday...thinking of you all

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Lowedal

    Hi Sal and Lowe,

    Bad news I’m afraid after yesterday’s call. 2nd line chemo hasn’t worked and cancer continues to spread in peritoneum. They are stopping that and are going to look at options such as immunotherapy if he ha the right cells, if not then 3rd line chemo or referral to Royal Marsden who do clinical trials and experimental stuff. But oncologist was not very positive so we’re devastated. 
    I thought I was prepared but the call knocked me for 6 and I’ve cried on and off for ages which I don’t usually do. God knows how I’ll be when I’m on my own.

    Good thing was that my stepdaughter and her husband came round today and we got to see our grandson so that gave me a lift (hubby was just rather tired).

    I shall look at your blog Lowe for some inspiration and Sal please let us know how your call goes next week.

    Its so good to share with others who just get it xxx

  • So sorry to hear this, hopefully you both won't be keep waiting to hear the options on offer to your hubby,  our call is just about continuing this line of chemo, hubby happy to take call on his own will ring me straight after, I know how you feel always seems 6 steps forward and 12 back, but as I said the way I deal with stuff is day by day xx keep strong I know its hard xx cuddle that grandson xx 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Sal1

    Thanks x

    Hope your hubby gets to carry on with his chemo