Losing the fighting spirit

FormerMember
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Hello, I am caring for my wife who was diagnosed with stage iv endometrial cancer in January.  Unfortunately chemotherapy was unsuccessful at slowing the cancer and her hospital stopped further treatment.

Not to just give up we had a second opinion from a specialist hospital in Lisbon who offered further treatment but again unfortunately this has failed also. 

My wife is now very poorly and I am at a loss of what else I can do to keep up her fighting spirit. I am sure it is the fact that having some treatment keeps her going. 

She is now almost confined to bed very tired because of pain killers and now starting to decline. I feel I am failing her for not finding further hope. I have a palliative care team for her but I can't accept myself that it has come to this in just 6 months. 

Sorry to ramble on but I am struggling to even find words of comfort to help her.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    My husband is struggling as he gets more tired with his terminal cancer. It is very hard to know what to say and do. We feel young and it’s seems ridiculous that as soon as you reach retirement it hits you but you sound even younger. I try to talk about good memories and not talk about the cancer. He wants to ignore it. I can only say that just by being there you are making a difference. We all know how difficult it is. Especially hard with covid. Can’t even try and go somewhere nice or plan any future. Even though it’s probably not true maybe you can cling to some hope. It might make it easier to pretend a little.  It’s very depressing. I hope you feel better soon. 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thank you for your kind words. 

    Sadly my wife passed away on Sunday. She unfortunately developed blood poisoning due to her kidneys failing and didn't respond to the treatment.

    She had been through an awful lot of suffering in the short 6 months of being diagnosed with cancer and although I can't bear being without her I wouldn't have wanted her to suffer more.

    We had both taken early retirement (60 & 63) but alas it wasn't to be.

    I wish you all the very best and must agree that this covid situation has made things even harder.

    Thank you very much 

    Neal