Hi
My dad was diagnosed with incurable unknown primary source which had spread to his liver, lungs and lymph modes this was at Christmas he was given 1-3 months, he was then admitted to hospital about a week later, after more tests they found it had grown significantly in his lung and said it would be weeks.
So I have been trying to spend as much time as I possibly can with him getting down a few times a week when I can but he is between an hour and half to two hours away traffic dependant, I have children who I have tried keeping in routine, also my eldest is coming up to exams so trying to be there for him and also I am self employed, I feel frazzled but also feel so guilty not going down to see him more and when I'm down there feel guilty for my kids.
It seems my dad is in final stages now, sleeping alot, barely eating, out of breath easily, barely able to walk and getting very confused and agitated. Anyone who could advise me I would be grateful but I know everyone is different.
Do I keep doing what I'm doing or spend more time with my dad, I have good support at home, I am so torn as I know I won't get this time back with my dad but my kids need me they are so used to me been there everyday it's been a big change last couple of months for them.
Thanks for reading
