Mum in law got diagnosis but now in denial or forgotten?

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Hi, just joined and looking for any similar experience out there.

  1. Mum in law has incurable cancer in abdomen. She is doing ok in hospital and up until our last visit on Wednesday she understood her diagnosis and discussed it with us in her a matter of fact way. She has no dementia and is quite sharp. She's 89.
  2. At visit on Wednesday she mentioned twice that she hadn't been told yet what was wrong with her and they're still doing tests. We didn't correct her. She said it again during that visit and in the evening to a different visitor.
  3. We have asked to speak to palliative care nurse to understand how to deal with this but still waiting.
  4. Meanwhile any ideas how to deal with this?
  5. Do we correct or just roll with her idea of what's going on.
  6. TIA for anyone with any experience or advice

  • Hi  and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but I am so sorry to hear about your mum….. my situation is different as I am the one with the cancer….. actually 4 cancers Rolling eyes

    Navigating this journey can be such a stressful and challenging time but talking with and getting support from people who have walked or are walking the ‘exact same' support journey can help a lot.

    The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your mum and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our general cancer……

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    ……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.

    To connect with a group click on the “Bold Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.

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    You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

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    Mike (Thehighlander)

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