I was given my diagnosis yesterday and I’ve got a pre-op appointment on Wednesday ahead of surgery the following Tuesday.
i was planning to take a short break at the end of August but I’m now feeling pressured to take that break by bringing it forward ahead of surgery. I will be going away straight after the pre-op appointment and returning home the day before.surgery.
ive been lying awake all night worrying I’ve upset my wife by resisting the idea as well as trying to think through what’s happening .
I had a heart procedure 2 weeks ago, I’ve now got a breast cancer diagnosis and my head is spinning. The thought of trying to rearrange the trip at very short notice and the thought I might not actually enjoy it given surgery is the day after I get back is all I can think about.
Am I being selfish?
Hi DavidS
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
Sorry to hear about both your heart issues and your cancer diagnosis. I can see why you might want to take some time to process things before your appointments rather than going on a break and perhaps being open and honest with your wife is going to be helpful going forward.
Of course having a loved one with cancer is difficult too so it is positive you are concerned you might have upset her but perhaps going with the original plan might be a good option.
Do post on here whenever as someone is always listening. You might also like to look at our Breast cancer forum where there will be others at all stages of treatment and might be worth sharing there.
<<hugs>>
Steve
