Hello everyone.
So last year my mother found out she had bladder cancer, unfortunately the hospital knew for 9 months before informing us. Anyway fast forward to now. They managed to complely remove it with radio therapy, so for the last month we've been living on that massive win... Unfortunately last week we found out she now has lung cancer, and due to her age and chronic health conditions they've told her there is nothing they can do. It's not affecting her at the moment but it's likely to do so soon in the future. My dad isnt very mobile and they both rely on me for shopping / appointments etc. I love both my parents very much so I don't find it a burden at all. I have a wife and 2 young children to support and work full time as a lighting technician in live events. I work some stupid hours some weeks and know when the time comes it's going to be impossible to juggle everything, I'm also thinking of my mental health with everything going on. Should I look at leaving my job at some point in the future? To full time care? Anyone else been in this situation?
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