My dad is 87 and had prostate cancer on watchful waiting but it has now spread to his hip and thigh. So much for “watchful waiting”. He is very down and worried about the future and being a burden. My mum is also 87 and is trying really hard to cope but I know she’s struggling. How on earth do we deal with this?
Hello Damian (DamianR )
A warm welcome to the Macmillan Online community although I am so sorry to find you joining us. I am Brian one of the Community Champions here on the online Community. Indeed I am in the 4th year of my personal prostate cancer journey.
The community is divided into cancer specific groups and I would advise you to join us on the Prostate group - here's the link you need:
Once you click on the link and the page opens up, click on "join" on the black banner at the bottom of the page. Once you have joined our group you can introduce yourself in the "New Here - Say Hello" section of the group. You can either copy and paste or repost your original post there.
I can assure you of plenty of help and advice from our group.
If you need any help in navigating the Community, please do get back to me.
Best wishes - Brian.

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