Don’t know if this is where to start

Hi KwRds

Welcome to the Community, I'm Daisy53 one of the Community Champions on the Online Community.  I'm usually to be found in the Breast Cancer and Triple Negative breast cancer forums and I help out here and in some of the other forums if I can.  I'm so sorry to hear that your wife and your son have been diagnosed with lung cancer and stomach cancer.  I can only imagine how hard it is for you to have two of your loved ones diagnosed with cancer within days of each other.

There are a number of forums you can join to get support for yourself and your loved ones.  You can join both the Lung Cancer Forum and the Stomach Cancer forum as well as the Carer's only forum and the family and friends forum.  Here's the links to those forums I mentioned: Lung cancer forum , Stomach cancer forum , Carers only forum , and Family and friends forum .  You can also ring the helpline on 0808 808 00 00 to talk to someone about your situation and about how you are feeling.  The Helpline is open from 8 am to 8 pm seven days a week.

I hope this helps you somewhat.

Best wishes

Daisy53

Hi KwRds,

I have literally just joined this group this morning and this is the first post that I have read, which obviously is incredibly upsetting to read and I am so sorry for what you are all going through. However this resonated with my situation also as I was diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer last month, I am 42 and have 2 young daughters myself. Unfortunately, I am rather new to all this and still awaiting to meet oncology after being told palliative care is my option as surgery is a no go. I am currently not sleeping hence joined this forum but I guess I wanted you to know that I am in the same boat regarding your son and will happily share any advice or support I receive over time. By the looks of it, people seem very responsive and supportive like Daisy53 giving us places to go. I think we can just be strong for now and make every day count with our children (grandchildren) and hope for some rays of light. I think remember to not do this alone - you’re all in it together and family is going to be the biggest positivity in your journey.
Dan83

Hi Dan83

Thank you for taking the time to reply and offer your words of support and encouragement. I am also very sorry to hear of what you and your family are going through.

it is it is without doubt the toughest situation of my/our lives.

I agree that however difficult it seems, trying to remain positive, especially within family groups is very important and as you say, not doing it alone is critical too, especially talking.

I have for years been very reluctant to share my feelings but having recently really felt the need to say out loud what I feel and although I’m still a little reluctant to open up by beginning to do so now is really helping.

Thank for offering to share any advice or support you find helpful. Although I am in a carers position and not actually being the person diagnosed I too will pass on any advice or support I feel may help ease your journey.

KwRds

Hi Daisy53 I’m sorry for the delayed reply, I’ve just realised I didn’t thank you for your helpful words and information, I have joined the family and friends forum and I’m also intending to join others too, I feel I have been helped a little already by just doing this small start.

I have always found it difficult to talk about my feelings but it is becoming clear that doing this is the most positive way forward and intend to take this onboard.

thanks again for your support.

kind regards and best wishes 

KwRds

Delighted to hear that you have joined the forums I suggested to you and that you are going to join the others as well and that you feel that you have been helped a little already by doing that.

Best wishes

Daisy53