What are some of the ways soften the grief
Hello PNi,
A warm welcome to the online community, although I'm sorry you have the need to join.
There are numerous condition specific forums on here comprising members who have experienced or are experiencing similar situations and treatments who can talk about their own experiences. Can I suggest you join the breast cancer forum and re - post your question there. I'm sure you'll find answers to your questions from members who have experienced the same situations.
The link is:
Derek.

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