Hi I’m new here although I’m not new to cancer, so to speak. I was diagnosed with aggressive cancer in my left Kidney tube in August 24. This resulted in me having the kidney and tube removed and my bladder capped. I don’t think I handled it all too well, if I’m being honest, although I’m not sure how I was meant to handle it. I have just been informed that I have cancerous lump on my other kidney, that they intend to watch for the next few years and operate when it’s needed. Again I am not sure what I should be feeling as I don’t think I feel anything at all. Anyone have any idea why I’m like this? I remember a ex having breast cancer twice, the first time I could tell and see her determination and the second time nothing but hate and rage. Yet I don’t feel either of these.
Hi Chris1830 and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your journey.
I know from experience having been on my cancer journey for over 25 years with two very rare, hard to treat types of Non Hodgkin’s Lymphomas (one incurable) that navigating this journey can be such a stressful and challenging time but talking with and getting support from people who have walked or are walking the ‘exact same' journey can help a lot.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend that you look to join and put up your own post in our dedicated……..
…….. support group. This group is a safe place to talk to others with a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support.
To connect in with the group please click on the link above……. then once the group page opens you will see a [Black - Click to Join - Banner] at the bottom of the page, click in this box and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
You can then introduce yourself to the group by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial/work guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
