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I really hope somebody can help me. My darling son has cancer in his bowel, liver,lungs and bones.He's just had his second round of chemo,but is very poorly. i am terrified about what is happening. what is making things so much worse is his girlfriend has been coercively controlling him.He doesn't speak to any of his friends and family apart from myself and husband. they have a young child.But i'm scared she's now trying to push us out.We refused to do something she orderd us to do,since then she won't speak to us or let us see our grandchild.my son lives with her and her family,so we have to go there to visit him.Nobody speaks to us while we are there.The strain of this as well as the worry about our son is becoming so hard to cope with.We have found out she has been telling lies about us to our son and her family to try and turn everyone against us.A ll we want is to concentrate on our son and see our granchild and relly don't know what to do.

  • Hi,

    I am sorry to hear that this is happening to you. I cannot begin to imagine the worry and pain you are experiencing.

    The first thing that came to my mind reading your message is to reach out to your daughter-in-law for a heart-to-heart conversation. You both have your son's best interest as your priority. You can use this as a common point form where to start a conversation and find a way forward.

    Another thing you can do is get in touch with your local Healthwatch. They will be able to advise you on more formal options available to you depending on where you live. 

    Failing all of the above, you also have the option to get social services involved. Your son is a vulnerable adult right now and you can ask adult social services to check on him. Google "adult social care" followed by the name of your local council, find the referral form and fill it in. Social services will get in touch to talk about how to assist, although the process can take some time.

    I hope you find peace, reunite with your son and grandchildren and that your son gets well soon. Good luck x