Hiya. New to the group. My mother has breast cancer and an imminent mastectomy. I have young children. We are taking my mother’s lead about who knows what and currently the children know nothing. I’d like to tell the children (I read the page about it on here, very useful) but it feels like this big ‘we must get Christmas out the way’ thing. Also my mother and I make decisions in very different ways. I’m very logical, and would pick the least risk option and then just stick to it. My mother is exploring all her options and often sounds like she wants to challenge the advice she has been given by the cancer nurse. I know this comes from a place of fear, and I want to support her without enabling or encouraging damaging thought patterns. I just want her to choose the least risk option and save herself the torment, but don’t want her to feel like I’m trying to manage her. I’m exhausted. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
