Guilt

Lorie 6 hours ago

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Hi All,

I was diagnosed with Triple Negative Breast cancer in 2020, had my final annual mammogram last week which was clear.

By the end of the week my 32yr old daughter had found a lump and has been referred to the breast unit appointment is in 3wks.

I am overwhelmed by guilt that I may have passed this on to her. I can’t sleep, cry all the time and just can’t stop worrying.She is being strong however won’t tell me much and won’t let me go with her to the appointment. She has no idea how I am feeling.

How as a Mother can I cope with this guilt

Bellamay 6 hours ago

Hi Lorie, I logged onto the forum for a different purpose but your post popped up. My cancer was endometrial. Wondering if I could have passed anything onto my daughters was the first thing I asked. I don’t know how to comfort you or help rid you of your feelings of guilt that I fully understand. I’m just sending you a hug and wish you strength (and a wish for healing sleep for you).

Best wishes to your daughter too for an easy time .

Beesuit 6 hours ago

Lorie said:
How as a Mother can I cope with this guilt

I really feel for you. It's a terrible burden but at least it gives you the opportunity to ask about BRCA testing, especially if you have other children. Meanwhile it might be an idea to talk to your daughter about how you feel. It's quite likely she doesn't blame you at all. Hugs

Dani

Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019

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