Hello Forumites,
My wife got a diagnosis of Stage IV Signet Ring Adenocarcinoma last month, nothing to be done, so I brought her home, engaged Hospice, and I'm waiting for the end. On 24 November they said she had two weeks left, and that date slipped by a week ago. Each day she's weaker, of course, her pain is very well managed, but she's having a terrible time with the nausea/vomiting despite meds. The staff at the hospital and our Hospice nurse have remarked about her resilience and spirit, she really is a tough, strong lady. In my early 20's my father and I nursed my mother through her last days (everything imaginable but cancer) and in my mid-20's I nursed my dad through cancer, so this is my third go-'round with this type of thing. My employer and my coworkers have been supportive beyond any reasonable expectation, so there's that blessing.
My apologies for my randomness in this posting, just wanted to reach out to some folks that understand.
Hi dixieflyer and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is a supportive place to be.
I’m so sorry to read about your wife but you sound like a wonderful, caring person.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group as you'll then connect directly with others who are looking after someone with a terminal diagnosis.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
Sending virtual ((hugs))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Hi Malcolm and a very warm welcome to you too.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and although I've had different cancer diagnoses to your dad I know how a cancer diagnosis impacts the whole family.
As you'll have seen in my reply to dixieflyer, the online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the family and friends group as you'll then connect directly with others who have a loved one living with cancer.
You might also want to join the head and neck cancer group as this will give you the chance to ask about your dad's type of cancer, treatment, etc.
To join, just click on the links I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could put something about your dad's diagnosis as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
