I had throat cancer some 3 years ago, itself a shock but following surgery some chemo / radio therapy I have made a good recovery. Not yet at the 5 year milestone but getting there or so I thought. Last few months I have had some issues following eating and drinking which I assumed was normal following on from my treatment etc. That said off to the DR I went and have been sent off for bloods and a “poo” sample. I then received a call from my GP saying I had failed the test as there was blood and also my PSA test was over 7. Of course I am now fearing the worst and am awaiting an emergency appointment at the local hospital. I am beside myself with worry and loosing sleep etc. My wife on the other hand has taken the “ oh well at least they are doing something” and she is sure all will be well. I get her optimistic outlook is no doubt aimed at keeping my chin up so to speak. I am worried about her more than me tbh. She was fantastic when I was last ill, leaving work to take care of the kids and me. She ensured I was using my food tube to feed and kept everything going driving and collecting me from chemo etc. She did have to go and have some counselling after as she admitted it was draining for her. I am fearful that this will drag her down even more. Is it right to do a pre emptive strike and go and sit with a councillor together or should I let things lie and see how she goes?
Hi Nobby110871ea37 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and although I've had different cancer diagnoses to you I know how a cancer diagnosis affects the whole family.
The online community is divided into different support groups and I assume from your post that you're being investigated for possible bowel and prostate cancers. If that's the case I'm going to recommend that you join the prostate cancer and bowel cancer groups as you'll then connect directly with others who may be able to tell you if they and their partner had counselling pre-diagnosis. If I've assumed wrongly then you could take a look through this list to choose the right group.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
Wishing you all the best and keeping my fingers crossed that you don't have a further cancer.
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