Hi, please forgive me, this is a first for me… in a forum, and dealing with my husband’s cancer.
my husband was diagnosed on the 21/11/25. He has a tumour in his lymph nodes (neck) and waiting for CT scan results to see if it started in his lung/s
I’ve never felt this way before, I’ve totally blocked it out, and I refuse to even let my mind think about our journey ahead.
I feel our lives are still as normal as they were before the diagnosis. I will be by my husband’s side for everything 100%.
we have only been married for 5 years, together for 6, we are both in our early 50s. This is my first marriage. My husband I actually went to high school together,and were boyfriend and girlfriend 40years ago 
i can’t even talk about my husband’s diagnosis, with him or family members. This sounds selfish because this isn’t about me.
any advice on how I can deal with this and Christmas, so I can be the supportive wife I need to be for my husband. At the minute he is in good health, and still working full time.
many thanks ♥️
Hi Sweep71dfa4b9 and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your husband’s ongoing diagnosis.
I know from experience having been on my cancer journey for over 25 years with two very rare, hard to treat types of Non Hodgkin’s Lymphomas (one incurable) that navigating this journey can be such a stressful and challenging time but talking with and getting support from people who have walked or are walking the ‘exact same' journey can help a lot be it patients or family members.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms)……… you can look through the list below for the type of cancer your husband has……..
…….. and you will find our dedicated groups.
These groups are safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same journey.
Have a look through the LIST above and once you find the support group for your………. cancer type....... click on the link and when the group page opens you will see a [Black - Click to Join - Banner] at the bottom of the page, click in this box and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your husband and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……..
Supporting someone with incurable cancer (If this is applicable)
……support groups where you will connect with others navigating the same support challenges.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
