Hi my partner of 21 years got diagnosed with cancer of the base of his tongue in June this year.he has just finished each radiotherapy and chemo,whilst we were going to the cancer centre I felt very supported talking to other people with various forms of head and neck cancer.now back in front he real world I just feel so upset and angry.I have a brother who knows that my partner has cancer and he hasn't bothered once to contact me and when I told him how hurt I was about that he said we all have issues!am I bring unreasonable? Have other people had the same dismissive attitude to there cancer?
Hi Loki1f8473 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and although it was me rather than my husband who was diagnosed with cancer, I know what an affect it has on everyone.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the carers only group as you'll then connect directly with others who have been in the same position as you.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could put something about your partner's diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Hi Loki1f8473
Do have a look at the link latchbrook has given you and come over to the The Head and Neck Cancer Forum . It's a really friendly place and there are partners and carers of cancer patients there.
Meanwhile have a look at this essay on cancer recovery. It's actually a very useful piece to print out and distribute to your nearest and dearest. I did just that so that people could understand that the end of treatment is not the end of cancer
Dani
Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019
