Last year I had surgery for bowel cancer and was given the all clear. Relief. Until this year. As part of the follow up appointments after surgery blood tests showed something abnormal. Scans and blood tests confirmed I have cancer of the liver. No surgery option this time, just months of chemo. My wife has been amazing. Helping me as much as she can. Problem is I find it hard to open up to her and tell her how I feel. I just don't want her worrying about me anymore than she is already.
Hi ExSappere76619 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community. Like you, I've had two different types of cancers but I found talking about it to my husband really helpful. We're all different but for me, talking about my diagnoses made them feel less scary.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the liver cancer group as you'll then connect directly with others who have the same type of cancer as you.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
If you haven't seen this already, you might want to have a look at Macmillan's information on talking about your cancer diagnosis and see if this helps you take the first steps to telling your wife how you feel. I suspect she'll have a pretty good idea already and you might find the conversation easier than you think.
It would be great if you could put something about your diagnosis and proposed treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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