My dad aged 68 got diagnosed with AML March 2024 he went into remission before Christmas but then in March 2025 it was back with a mutation. In June we were told he had 4 weeks left to live. So I moved back home to Dorset from Cornwall with my husband so we could get dad home as that is where he wanted to be, and with my mum being disabled herself wouldn’t be able to cope with dad on her own. I was his palative carer, doing everything that he needed doing from cleaning him after accidents to helping him eat/drink when his hands wouldn’t let him. The morning of 24th July dad was being sick and was generally not well and in pain. We knew that, that night we had to sleep downstairs as it wouldn’t be long. We sat either side of the bed holding his hands when his breathing stopped at 5pm. That day is so imprinted in my head, that that’s the last image of my dad. Grief has really hit me and I don’t know how to cope. I was his angel, he called me that all the time and now I have lost the main man that brought me up to be who I am. I’m so lost with out him and no one gets how I’m feeling, I’m numb, I’m quite and I don’t know what to say or think. It’s strange being back in Cornwall as it feels like he’s still there in Dorset but when I call mum and see his chair empty it hits me all over again.
Hi Dadsangel045c0b and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your dad, my sincere condolences.
I totally understand your post. I have lots both my parents rather suddenly and due to the distance between us I was unable to with them…… but it’s so good that you were able to have that precious time with him. I was told that time heals…… and for me it certainly has.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to navigate this unwanted journey you may benefit from joining and posting in our dedicated…..
Bereaved Family and Friends Support Group.
……. support group where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Link” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides practical information, emotional support or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))
