Loss of sister

  • 2 replies
  • 21 subscribers
  • 215 views
  1. I lost my sister 9 days ago, she died from prostate cancer at the age of 55. 
    I’ve tried to grieve but can’t at the moment, I just seem to be angry at everyone and very short of patience. 
    I'm crying from time to time but nothing that is giving any relief so my head turmoil currently. 
    I knew her for 50 years as a best friend and confidant occasionally, and now I don’t quite know how I should be with others around me. I have a wonderful wife and 4 children whom are very supportive but that doesn’t seem to be enough for me. I could really do with some top tips from others who have or are going through this please. 
  • Hi  and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your sister…… please do accept my sincere condolences.

    A loss in the family like this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help you a lot.

    The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you look to join and post in our…….

    Bereaved Family and Friends Support Group.

    ……. support group.

    This group is a safe place to talk to others, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same journey.

    To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Link” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.

    When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.

    You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

    The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides practical information, emotional support or just a listening ear.

    Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.

    Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

    Community Champion Badge

  • Hi  

    Im so sorry about your sister. While I haven't lost a sibling I have lost people close to me. From my experience grief comes in stages and anger is one of them along with many other emotions and it goes back and forward. It is very early days for you yet and while I don't think you ever really get over it you do eventually in time learn to live with it. There's a saying that grief is love with no place to go and while its a cliche I do think its true. Just let the emotions come naturally, there is no right or wrong way to grieve just do what's right for you. Sending hugs. X