Hello
New here. In May, my 24 year old son and his partner who is 21, travelled to Australia to visit family. It was meant to be a holiday of a lifetime.
Tragically a week before my son was due to fly home, his partner became unwell. She was very quickly diagnosed with stage 4 adrenal cancer which is a rare cancer which has spread to her lungs. She has a 16cm tumour which is squashing an artery to her heart.
Needless to say, my son didn't come home. He has stayed by her side in Australia. She is being treated in Queensland, hospital staff and the care they are giving her is excellent. After an initial 2 week stay in hospital she is now treated as an outpatient.
She's undergoing her 4th round of chemo this week. The plan is to shrink the tumour as much as possible before considering surgery. The concern with surgery is the added complication to the artery to the heart.
Despite all of the above, together, they are so positive, hopeful and strong. When she is well enough, they go running, hiking and she has started Pilates. They are amazing!
It's me who is struggling. Being on the other side of the planet unable to give them a hug and hold them tight is difficult. I work full time, and am looking after their dog. They are in front by 9 hours so we have lots of early morning video calls etc.
We're all just taking one day at a time, keeping each other's spirits up, we all have good days and bad but ultimately staying positive and hopeful.
Any words of support/advice, would be greatly appreciated.
Hi Nicknak264cd2 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and I'm sorry that your post has got missed and none of us have popped on to direct you to a group or groups to get support.
As I mentioned, the online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the family and friends group where you'll connect directly with others who are supporting a loved one with cancer.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It's great to read how well your son's partner is doing and I hope this continues to be the case.
Sending virtual ((hugs))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
